Besides money, what changes a person?
I don't think money changes a person: it rather makes a person feel powerful enough to safely display those latent changes that have been going on in the undercurrent.
As for the changes themselves... Well, I am going to make an analogy and it is going to be lengthy:
"Need" is the key word, I believe.
Now, imagine a spring squeezed as far down its axis of motion as possible. That would be a whole "amplitude". What do you think will happen once the spring is released up until the time it restores back to the equilibrium position? It will oscillate, right? How strong will the initial thrust be?
Let's call need "the tendency to restore to the point of stable equilibrium", and let's call the thirst to quench the need, or simply thirst, the "thrust". This thirst intensifies as the distance from the need increases.
Money is just a means among many to this end. What you witness to when it factors in is the intensity of the thirst or thrust, indicating the immediacy of motion that comes from the strain or stress of having remained in an actually undesired and thus unstable position for too long.
I think it is only when people come to appreciate that they are not as different as they might wish to think they are that they can tap into the seemingly elusive reasons that change people. Consider that some springs are longer, some are thicker, some are made of more resistant and durable materials meaning each person would be like a spring with at unique spring constant at a given moment of comparison. None of this uniqueness can change the way any spring behaves, however. No matter how unique, the energy needed to squeeze a spring as far as a certain distance x is (kx^2)/2 . So, regardless of where we stand wrt the initial position of equilibrium and what we are made of, we all operate under the same rule or law; we tend to the direction of our needs.
Hence change depends on this tendency, and how quickly/ferociously it happens also depends on how far down(or high up) the axis you are wrt the equilibrium.
Any means that gets you to your desired position is just a benchmark of the release from this push or pull (force).
Said another way, how much and fast you spring up depends on how far you are pushed down. I may seem to have overstated myself, but not quite.
What I am saying is it is our past up until the present that pushes or pulls us. It is a totality of circumstances and their consequences that upset our balance and determine our needs. Past events might have persistent effects through conditioning via repetition or continuity of some sort, at which point they become trauma. Current situations might pose a new kind of threat in terms of prolonged stress and strain and present a difficulty reminiscent of past traumas or the phobias those traumas have created.
Let's now take away the means to quell this thirst. What happens then?
No money to change your life around? Stuck in that shithouse with black mold, with maybe many kids or too many or too few of anything, with debt, what have you?
Anything that puts us through stress and strain for long enough will not just bend but break us.
That, too, changes a person.
The thing is, if you are not broken, then, just like a spring, you can undergo damped oscillation, starting from the points of maximum displacement on to midpoint, the equilibrium.
Your thirst can die down once you meet your needs.
When you can't meet your needs, you give up. That changes you permanently. So, essentially timing is important. What you are made of or made to become in itself then becomes important. Which of your genes have already been triggered by the time of birth as well as which upon stimulation keep shutting down and opening up, how your brain has been wired all along, your habits make you who you are. Nature and nurture concoct a scheme together. It all comes down to nurture, I guess, because we all have the same genes, and more or less the same potential, just not the same traits. And I think this is what people fail to acknowledge in general.
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Near-death experience, grief, marriage, children, religious conversion, brain damage, physical handicap, drastic and/or sudden change in circumstances or environment, friendship...
None of these automatically cause a person to change "in essentials", and all have the potential for positive or negative (or neutral) impact.
Let's see...besides money...Children change a person. An illness. A big scare, where they thought they would lose a loved one. Death of a loved one. Moving to a new location. And sometimes, it will just be that they gained wisdom, for no particular obvious reason. Other times they will start becoming negative for no apparent reason, it is something internal.
- Life experiences
- Personal conflicts
- Struggles in life
- Near-death experience; if you survive.
- The grudges that someone holds.
- False belief in something; changes the way someone thinks.
- Something that you want very badly but you cannot get; changes the purpose of doing things (just to get something that you want).
And many more...
Everyday we are changing no matter if you want to or not. Humans change overtime with different dislikes and likes. So to answer your question, anything that happens outside (around them) or inside ( health or mind) changes someone. Which makes us change everyday just a little bit.
Trauma, pain, bad relationship, accepting Christ, good relationship, war, death of loved one,