Can we really forgive AND forget?
Forgiving is fabulous. Forgetting is foolish.
For years I believed if you have not forgotten, you have not forgiven. I discovered this is a flawed understanding.
Forgiving does not require absolving the wrongdoer. Forgiving is making the decision the wrongdoer does not deserve the time and attention to foster and maintain the toxic feelings. Let them worry about atonement.
Take whatever steps are necessary to protect yourself, then cut loose the anger and hurt. Just let it go.