Does jealousy ruin a relationship?
Yes, jealousy can erode a relationship and cause separation between you. Most people to not know how to effectively deal with jealousy, they think by using control that they can eliminate it. This excessive control causes the partner to lie and sneak around. The best thing you can do if you are dealing with jealousy is to look into it deeply. Are you jealous because you feel you lack something someone else has? Are you fearful of losing someone? Are you trying to control another person? Once you establish the problem you can become to work on it. No amount of control is going to stop someone from acting out. Once you realize this you will understand how silly it is to try to set rules and boundaries to avoid getting jealous. If you are in relationship with someone who you feel is untrustworthy don't try to micro-manage them. Let happen what will happen and move from there. Stop trying to predict an outcome or you may produce one you don't want. Learn to admire traits in others rather than feel they are a threat to you. We all have admirable traits and there is nothing wrong with noticing them in others. Most people think they have to learn to trust their partners, but what they really need to do is learn to trust themselves. Trust yourself that you have your own back and that you won't tolerate behavior that is not honorable to you. Stop trying to control situations and instead let them be as they are. The freedom you will feel will be one of the best things you have ever felt. Accept whatever happens in your life and learn from it. Don't try to dodge it by being afraid of rejection and pain.