Have you ever discovered your child had a secret life?

I am answering anonymously because I don't want my answer found by any family or friends who aren't privy to this information. It is not "secret" but it is personal and not mine to share. My firstborn- my son, my baby boy- is an adult now. When he was 20 or 21 he informed me that he is actually a transgender woman. This year she, my only son, moved out into an apartment with her girlfriend and legally changed her name from the one I chose for my child to one I hate and never would have chosen. As far as I know she does not have the money to pursue hormonal or medical treatment to change her body and her insurance does not cover treatment related to transgender issues. However, she is living as a woman. I've never seen her in a dress or a bra but I know she wears them. At 6'4" she was a good sized man. As a woman? Not a lot of 6'4" women in our area! I don't know if they even make heels in a size 15 or 16 but this child never had good balance or coordination anyway. I hope she sticks mostly with sneakers and flats!

Also, my teenage daughter prefers men's clothes but I think that has more to do with better graphics on t-shirts; shorts and swimwear that don't expose her ass cheeks; and pockets. She swears by pockets!


Why is South Africa a democratic country?

We are seen as a Democracy because our leaders are elected by the people in a relatively free and fair election. Free and fair elections are the most basic prerequisite for a country to be a Democracy.Other factors that are important is freedom of the press

How could African governments help create more startups in Africa?

By taking on a private equity or VC approach as opposed to being government. Greater accountability as opposed to adhering to the mandate of "job creation", working to support business through seminars and mentorship programs that aren't just check boxes. But also teaching people to be self sustaining over time. The problem is the people running

What are some of life's biggest philosophical questions?

In my weltanschauung:1.Which the most complete moral code that optimizes benefit and peaceful relationships to the greatest amount of philosophical zombies and sentient beings alike for the longest amount of time with the least amount of controversy?2.Which system of social organization can uphold the aforementioned moral code the most efficient