Have you ever discovered your child had a secret life?
I am answering anonymously because I don't want my answer found by any family or friends who aren't privy to this information. It is not "secret" but it is personal and not mine to share. My firstborn- my son, my baby boy- is an adult now. When he was 20 or 21 he informed me that he is actually a transgender woman. This year she, my only son, moved out into an apartment with her girlfriend and legally changed her name from the one I chose for my child to one I hate and never would have chosen. As far as I know she does not have the money to pursue hormonal or medical treatment to change her body and her insurance does not cover treatment related to transgender issues. However, she is living as a woman. I've never seen her in a dress or a bra but I know she wears them. At 6'4" she was a good sized man. As a woman? Not a lot of 6'4" women in our area! I don't know if they even make heels in a size 15 or 16 but this child never had good balance or coordination anyway. I hope she sticks mostly with sneakers and flats!
Also, my teenage daughter prefers men's clothes but I think that has more to do with better graphics on t-shirts; shorts and swimwear that don't expose her ass cheeks; and pockets. She swears by pockets!