Have you ever fallen in love with a bully?

I haven't been or fallen in love with a Bully before, however, I can try break down why someone would ever fall for a Bully. Note: I'm not a certified shrink, therefore, I can't offer any resolutions to if you should love or be in a relationship with the one.

I hope it helps.

Bully (noun) ~a person who uses strength or influence to harm or intimidate those who are weaker.

The bully is believed to be the one who has been traumatized in the earlier part of their life. The troubled childhood has been most linked to someone being a bully when they grow older.

In some cases, the one who's being bullied may start empathizing with the bully for the very same reason mentioned above, however, it remains an exceptional case.

The empathy is mostly triggered by the following things;

  • When you put aside your viewpoint, and try to see things from the other person's point of view.
  • When you validate the other person's perspective.
  • Examine your attitude.
  • Listen.
  • Ask what the other person would do.

The very empathy may turn into love or affection towards them over the time.


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How would Africa be today if colonialism never happened?

My guess is not that different. I will assume that Europeans, Arabs and Indians still trade with the coastal cities. These cities would be extremely rich and cosmopolitan, very much like Zanzibar.The slave trade happened before the major drive of colonialism. The African trading partners of the European and Arab slavers built

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