Have you so far kept your gender reassignment secret from your partner?
I currently don't have a partner but I never keep my transgender status from a partner... at least, not to the point when we're about to do the mattress dance. I make it clear on all my online dating profiles and if I met a date in person and we arranged to go out in meatspace, I do try to make a point of "coming out" within three dates. My reasons for this are:
- I don't wanna be murdered. I think my chances of being murdered by some transphobic piece of shit is reduced if I am out before any sexual activity occurs.
- I don't wanna be falsely accused of "tricking" anybody. Being myself is not a "trick" and honestly, making it clear about my transgender status makes it easy to weed those people out. No, I didn't "trick" you, I made it clear on my online dating profiles. In a couple of places. I am trans.
But, I do believe that trans people should have the right not to have to disclose our trans status. I just believe it's unwise from a practical and logistical standpoint.