How to be more valuable to everyone around me
You are already somewhere valuable in the way you are but since this question is about adding a little more value to yourself, let's try to go through that:-
- Just try to give a little more to the society you live in, greet everyone with smile whom you meet in the day, it creates a difference.
- Try not to do back-stabbing, many of us might not know but it unintentionally becomes a part of our nature, which ruins situations many times.
- Try to help others in the best way you can, favor might be small but impact made could be big.
- Keep learning, keep improving yourself. One never knows, where their skills might prove themselves to be helpful.
- Don't be too complicated to be reached by people.
One might not be required to be great to add values, being honest and simple might be helpful enough.
Three fundamental needs have been driving human behavior for thousands of years: control, connection and consistency. Without them, survival and reproduction are impossible.
Evolution has ensured that those of our distant ancestors who answered those needs lived long enough to have and raise children.
But evolution is slow. That's why our ancestors' three fundamental needs are still with us today. Directly or indirectly, they drive everything we think, say and do.
Our needs for control, connection and consistency express themselves in infinite ways in a world that has become less physically threatening but more complex and mentally challenging.
Understanding, addressing and satisfying those three needs, both in yourself and in others, is key to ‘surviving' in a modern sense. It is key to navigating the opportunities and threats of today's world, to communicating and influencing effectively, and to achieving what you want for yourself and your children.
Here's a closer look at those three fundamental needs:
>>> OUR NEED TO FEEL IN CONTROL. This explains our attraction to things like knowledge, food, shelter, freedom, choice, power, possessions, contracts, insurance, mastery and safety. But it also explains our attraction to risk taking, fortune telling and novelty, all of which are opportunities to test or improve our control.
On the other hand, losing control over our life or loss of any kind, whether real or potential, is something we avoid and act on.
>>>> OUR NEED FOR CONNECTION
There is very little, above all reproduction, that we can achieve alone. Evolution has hardwired us to assume we stand a better chance of surviving by collaborating with others and being sociable (watch how newborn babies instinctively attract attention, for instance). As groups we can produce more food, build safer shelters and defend each other.
Sex is one of the most obvious manifestations of our need to connect. By making it pleasurable, evolution has increased the chances that we'll reproduce and survive.
But we also need to feel emotionally connected to the world around us, to what we do in it, to what things mean, to who we are and to who we might become. This is what some call self-actualization and is also why stories, not facts and numbers, resonate so deeply with us.
On the other hand, isolation or exclusion, whether real or potential, are forms of disconnection we instinctively fear and may go to extremes to avoid.
>>> OUR NEED FOR CONSISTENCY. This need supports the first two. How do we spot threats to our control and connections? How do we spot opportunities to test and improve them? By constantly checking our surroundings for breaks in the consistencies we know about.
Consciously or not, we can't refrain from filling gaps, spotting patterns, finding or inventing explanations, drawing conclusions, identifying truths, learning and establishing rules.
The world might seem to be in a turmoil of change, but most of life is consistent. We know from observation and learning that the same causes have the same effects and that reality in its millions of tiny details-including our own thoughts, actions and identity-is mostly consistent with our expectations and remains so from one timeframe to the next.
This means, crucially, that anything that we know to be consistent can be safely ignored in most cases. This in turn frees up our mind to pay attention to inconsistencies, which signal either threats to our control and connections or opportunities to improve them.
WHAT ABOUT HAPPINESS? Happiness is not a fundamental human need. It is a possible but not a guaranteed consequence of our three fundamental needs being answered. Happiness might be desirable but it is secondary.
Become the kind of person that you feel is a person that you value yourself. Above all,respect for yourself is paramount. Not everyone will find value in the same things but a person that has value for themselves sets an example for others to follow and to respect. It is not your responsibility or your obligation to provide value for all people. You are not a commodity
This is actually rather simple, just add value to peoples lives. That can be as simple as giving compliments, teaching something you know, giving an encouraging speech, serving, or answering a question like I'm doing right now. The best advice I can give you is to be authentic and be honest with those around you. Never try to be something you're not.
Remembering names, ask how their doing, remember the things they say, follow up next time you see them about the info. People respond more when they hear their name