How to feel happy all the time
Thanks for the A2A, Nicholas.
Let's start with an analogy: It might sound surprising, but adding salt to a sweet dish actually enhances the sweetness. In a like manner, if you never experienced unhappiness (salt), how would you know you were happy? You'd have no frame of reference.
That having been said, you absolutely can control the emotions you experience in response to events...and choose contentment in spite of those events. I've been disabled with chronic pain disorders for 18 years now, yet I would describe myself as "content" most of the time.
Don't get me wrong, there are days where my suffering is first and foremost in my mind, and I feel horribly depressed when imagining another 30–40 years of constant, unrelenting pain. But those depressions don't last, because I also refuse to allow my pain and disability to define me, or to dictate the amount of enjoyment I get from the one life I have.
So, here are a few things you can do to improve your overall mood.
- Recognize that the situation making you unhappy is temporary. Yes, I will suffer from chronic pain for the rest of my life, barring medical breakthroughs. But every day isn't the worst day ever, and the "flare" of extreme pain will pass; there will be days when I feel better, the pain is tolerable, and I can actually accomplish things. So, I hunker down and start my list of self-care items to help me feel better.
- Learn to regulate your emotions. Here's one of my Jedi Mind Tricks: Smile, even if you have to force a completely fake smile, and hold it for a couple minutes. You'll begin to feel your mood improve, because smiling causes your brain to produce endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin, all of which make you feel good. Additionally, be aware of your emotions and analyze them. For example, I sometimes find myself supremely irritable. When I do, I stop and ask myself whether I'm thirsty, hungry, forgot my medication, etc. In other words, I look to myself for the cause first, before acting out my emotion on someone who's completely innocent.
- Understand that you are responsible for your own happiness. There's no magical Happiness Fairy who will wave her wand and sprinkle you with Happiness Dust. Happiness is a choice; it's not something that happens TO you. Human beings are capable of choosing happiness even amidst suffering...for the most part. (I can think of situations where I'd be unable to find happiness, like if my child was suffering and I was helpless to ameliorate it.)
- Develop a sense of perspective. My situation is horrible, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, BUT I have a roof over my head, food on my table, clothes on my back, family and friends who care about me, etc. I'm not dying of cancer, dealing with intellectual diminution, starving to death, alone in the world, etc. Perspective helps you to deal with your own situation in a more realistic way.
- Realize that emotions have a purpose, even negative ones. Just like physical pain is a signal that you're suffering an injury or illness, emotional pain is a signal that you're suffering from unresolved mental anguish. Instead of feeding into the negative emotion, try to analyze the source and formulate a plan to solve the problem. Be determined, because it's easy to be your own worst enemy.
I hope I've answered your question and helped in some way.
Thanks for A2A
Well there should not be any specific reason to make you feel happy. I guess happiness lies in smallest of the things around us. There will be many instances in our life when we will feel like giving up everything , when nothing goes our way , when we hope to see ourselves happy again ,when everything seems negative but trust me bad phase won't last long. Everything will become back to normal again. We should learn to be happy ,to be positive , to not let ourselves feel down whatever the scenario maybe. Happiness lies within us. It depends on how we see things. It's not possible to feel happy all the time . Your happiness will count no value if it stays with you 24/7. It's good to feel down sometimes so that you can outshine your happiness than before , so that you can value your happiness more.
Doing the things ,indulging in the activities that make you feel satisfied will be your path to your happiness. Spending some quality time with your friends ,your family members will lead you to happiness. Practising yoga , listening music ,watching movies , going on solo trips are few of the things you can be happy with. Happiness is not defined it's you who have to find your happiness.
This is the only life you have got ,make the most out of it. Stay healthy ,stay happy.
Edit : I found this suitable pin at Pinterest. Here it is..
- If you don't live in your past
- If you don't live in your future
- If you don't compare yourselves with others
- If you don't have great expectations
- If you don't have girl friend or boy friend
- If you don't have credit card
- If you don't expect 100% perfection in everything
- If you don't speak negative about any one on their back
- If you can live in the present moment
- If you enjoy every little things in life
- If you accept the cause and the result
- If you have the mindset of adjustment , tolerance and sacrifice
- If you solve the problems by your own
- If you take responsibilities of your dependent's problems and solve it
- If you are surrounded by positive mindset people
- If you speak the truth
- If you do what ever you feel to do, without others opinion
- If you downgrade your mobile phone from smart touch phone to press phone
The truth is you can't.
To be happy all the time is just as delusory as thinking Wednesday's will never arrive.
Whether you like it or not, there will always be time when you feel slightly down or get caught up in the myriad of emotions that attach themselves, remora like, to us as human beings.
But that doesn't mean all hope is lost.
Here are a few things I find helpful to making peace and happiness a daily standard, instead of an everlasting pursuit.
- The quality of your life is always decided by how you experience life, not by what life offers you. It is an internal process controlled by our ability to conscious respond rather than do so compulsively. To be human means you can mould situations you are living in the way you want them. But today most people are moulded by the situations in which they exist. This is simply because they live in reaction to situations they are placed in. To mould situations the way you want them you must first know who you are and gain an awareness over your emotions, learning to consciously pause before responding rather than reacting compulsively .
- THE EMOTIONAL TRIAD : (source How To Master Your Emotions: The 6 Steps To Emotional Mastery) There are three factors that determine what you feel, moment to moment. Tony Robbins and other psychologists calls it the "Emotional Triad".
- Your Physiology
Every emotion you experience is first felt in your body. If you want to feel passionate, start by speaking more rapidly, moving more rapidly, and take on the "physiology" of passion. The same goes if you want to feel more confident – stand tall, be grounded, breathe fully, speak loudly, etc...
In the same way, if you want to feel depressed, it's a matter if slumping over, looking at the ground, breathing shallowly, frown, and speak quietly. The way you use your body biochemically changes how you feel.
- What You Focus On
The next thing that determines how you feel is what you decide to focus on. To feel happy, focus on things in your life that will make you feel happy. Perhaps it's asking questions like, "What am I happy about in my life right now?" or even remembering happy moments from the past, like a fun birthday. Whatever you focus on, you feel.
In the same way, to feel depressed you have to focus on things entirely differently. You need to be deleting all the good that's going on in any given moment, and focused on the negative. If you asked yourself, "What really sucks in my life right now?", I'm sure you'd be able to find something and end up feeling shitty. Or if I said, "Remember a time when you felt depressed", like that time your dog died or something – you'd feel those emotions you felt. What's wrong is always available, and so is what's right.
- Your Language
Your words and language patterns also change how you feel. If you say things like, "I feel really tired" or "This is too hard", you will literally feel tired or that what you're trying to do is hard. It simply doesn't put you in an empowering state.
All words have different emotional states associated to them. There are certain phrases you use that are disempowering, which will affect how you feel moment to moment. Being aware of your vocabulary, statements, phrases, and metaphors are crucial to controlling your state.
The truth is, you can feel any emotion you want by DECIDING to feel it. Happiness is a choice. And so is depression, anger, frustration, or any other emotion. No one makes you feel "happy" or "angry", it's based on how you're interpreting each situation in your life and the meaning you associate to it.
Hope this helps!