How did your spouse tell you, or you your spouse, that you wanted a divorce?
How pathetic is this: he took me to a record store and bought me a cassette of the Traveling Wilburys. Then he told me. In the record store. Then it took him a year and a half to hire an attorney (he's an attorney) and then he did nothing to make the case go forward. I wanted him back but I knew he wasn't coming back, so I had to file for divorce. That was very hard. However, I'd paid for the wedding, so I told him he was paying for the divorce. He paid.