How to stop loving someone who treated me badly
*WARNING* The following is an expression based on my personal experience as a Christian.
Realize that you never did love this person at all. What you are expressing is a self serving emotion that is about what you want. This "love" that you want to stop feeling is angst.
The Bible has the answer for every question. Here is what the word of God has to say about love:
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 English Standard Version (ESV)
4 Love is patient and kind;
love does not envy or boast;
it is not arrogant 5 or rude.
It does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
7 Love bears all things,
believes all things,
hopes all things,
endures all things.
Love is not a function of what do I get, but more so, what can I give.
I don't love my wife because she loves me back. Tough, I am thankful she does.
If you had some connection with someone, who has treated you poorly, forgive them. Seek for them grace and blessings. Be pleased when fortune smiles upon them. How do you stop loving someone? You don't.
1 Corinthians 13:1–3
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Don't stop loving him or her. It's natural to want stop loving when someone treats you badly (we do that because of our pride; it is natural). It could be hard but I advise you to continue loving them for the reason that made you love them in the first place and other good qualities they have (I know it's hard to think of any right now). I know this is tough but trust me you won't regret it. There could be something which is making the person feel bad and he or she might be reflecting it on you. Ask the person if everything is okay. Or ask them if you did something wrong if you aren't sure and apologize for it. Communicate that you care about him or her and if he or she needs some space. In that way, you are telling them you care and this will make them think eventually that you're a good, caring and innocent person. Don't let pride, which is natural, take over. Don't stop loving them. If you love them in a romantic way but he or she wants to be just friends, then still continue to love them as a friend. Or if you broke up with the person but couldn't stop loving them, ask them that being friends is an easier route for you to move on. Explain how you feel honestly. People say this is being needy but it is not. It is being human. Trust me that's how you prove your integrity and maturity. If you do that, at the end of the day, the person will have good thoughts about you and will regret for treating you badly.
As hard as it is you need to cut them off completely. If you have the option to get away or move, do it. The next step is finding a support group that learns DBT/CBT. Cognitive behavioral therapy helps you to realize what makes you keep going back, or why you allow someone to treat you badly. I've seen a lot of people in relationships who stay because they think the person will change, they don't! In situations where the person they think they love has twisted their emotions, views about self, and even brainwashed one into thinking they are not good enough for anyone but the abuser is common. You deserve a lot better if you know you are treated badly-period... Walk away, and have no contact with them. It's hard at first but I promise it gets so much better.
You cannot control your feelings; you can only control your actions. The first step is no longer interacting with them. You have to stay away from them. Stop paying attention to them.
When you have mastered that, you can work on no longer thinking about them. Learn to catch yourself when you are thinking about them. Meditation and mindfulness exercises help with this. Focus on other things. Do something creative. Focus on work, hobbies, and volunteering. Develop your relationships with friends and family.
You may never stop loving them, but your feelings will become passive and will feel like nostalgia. It sounds like you are still actively loving the person, and that you can stop.
block them from your life, block them from social media. move on, i know it would be hard but if they are blocked and you give no attention to them then eventually you will forget them day by day. from what i've experience, i loved this boy who took advantage of me for nudes and treated me like i'm not his girlfriend, nor as a friend, i eventually blocked him on all social media.
but if you don't want to be harsh, you can always talk it out and confess who they are to you, if they disagree, tell them to block YOU so you would not see their content and would not pay attention.
find yourself a distraction like doing yoga, travel, hike, learn a new language, etc .find someone who treats you way better than what they treated you.
i hope this helps!
Hey, did you ask anyone of us before you love? No ryt. You took decission by your self because you liked the persone most. So, now nothing change, only she is doing bad to you then let her go. You loved her/he because she is good and now realize she is treating you badly means she is bad then stop love.
Okay, I know its difficult
First try understand why you treating badly, is there any of your mistake or miss communication. If there is no reason that means she/he trying gett rid of you. So,
1. Do you eat the food which got spoiled
2. will you attend for the marriage even you invited
3. Will you go to the restaurant who treated bad....................NO ryt
So, I guess you got the solution