How ill-informed is my narcissist/sociopath/BPD/psychopath husband? I exposed him, then he handed me money and now I've been served my divorce papers.

How ill informed is my narcissistic husband? The final discard came last week as I exposed him to the very people he discredited me to. Today, I was served my papers. Last week during the high school happy days-themed discard, he hands me money.

Nothing about your question describes narcissism.

It just sounds like a typical messy divorce where one side or the other starts throwing around hurtful word labels.


Edit: Now that additional info has been posted to clarify the question, my response remains much the same, but with further explanation.

Source: Heather Roose's answer to How ill informed is my narcissistic husband? The final discard came last week as I exposed him to the very people he discredited me to. Today, I was served my papers. Last week during the high school happy days-themed discard, he hands me money.

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"Your ex is a BPD, Narcissist, Psychopath and sociopath."

These are all entirely different diagnosis, several of them conflicting. You will almost never see a BPD that is a sociopath, you will very very rarely see a narcissist that is a sociopath, and the diagnosis of psychopath and sociopath are only used as casual labels for the ASPD diagnosis or as a distinction for prison behavior.

Your ex may be an abuser and an asshole, but you throwing around labels like these in such a way makes it very likely that he is none of these things. Those are conflicting diagnosis being used to describe situational responses when the terms are applied discreetly to life long behavioral patterns.

For someone to actively display occasional traits from each of those disorders is actually common to normal people with emotional fluctuations.

And inaccurately randomly labeling someone (like you have here) is also typical behavior for a victim of abuse that has suffered trauma, you are looking for an excuse to hurt him further by labeling him with hurtful words.

Congratulations, you are both likely very normal and simply actively abusing each other at this point. Maybe he started it, but nothing about this story shows me a reason to call him any of the random diagnosis that were unprofessionally being thrown around.


Follow up:

How ill informed is my narcissistic husband?

Ill informed of what?

You seem to be looking for more labels to hurt him with. He sounds like a standard cheater who hurt you and now you are lashing out to hurt him.

I'm not trying to excuse his behavior, but normal people are perfectly capable of abuse and harmful relationships and yours has simply fallen apart along the way.

Good luck picking up the pieces of your life, but arguing over random incorrectly diagnosed labels is not going to be a useful path forward for you.

Put him behind you and consider counseling, at this point you are a potential danger to your own mental health if you let this spiral out of control.


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