How long did you think about ending your long term relationship before you actually did?
Well, how long did I think about ending it? From the first year we were married, 1975, until the day I broke free forever, May3,1983. In between those dates I endured beating after beating, unfaithfulness from him. I filed for divorce, had an affair and got pregnant. Cancelled the divorce because he made many false promises, had the baby and his abuse started all over again. Then my 12 year old daughter was put in foster care because she was suicidal. Then in early May of 1983 I found out he was sexually abusing my 12 year old and had been doing the same with my youngest from the time she was 18 months old, while I worked or slept. I went berserk. He beat me, broke ribs while my neighbors watched. He locked me outside and I panicked and tore the door handle off the door. The police made me leave. I told them what he had done but they left my baby girl with him. I went to a friends house and called CPS and my worker made those same police get out of bed at 6am and went out to save my baby girl. She went to a foster home and she stayed there until I proved to CPS that my marriage was over. It took over a year but I have never looked back. He went to prison for 25 years. He would write to me and beg me to put our marriage back together. It took a little over eight years to finally say "It's over!" The worst thing I did was trust him, the best thing I did was refuse to listen to his lies ever again.