Is 28 years too young to want to get married?From the context of a working class, urban Canadian, I got married at 21. My husband was 23. This was 2.5 years ago.
This is such an individual issue. For us, it worked out amazingly. I did all these crazy things in the context of marriage because I felt secure. I continue my education and am currently pursuing my masters, and will likely one day (though not soon) pursue a PhD. In this time, I've also launched my own business. I have found many passions that I nurture, like cooking and painting, and having a very small side hobby of repairing laptops or using
parts to create other cool things. And I'm supported.
He always wanted to make a game. So I encouraged him to. Pushed at times, and helped him in it. I wanted to write a story, and he's encouraged me a lot! And having your own sounding board has been such an amazing experience. Now I have a interest in games, and he has an interest in writing. I feel like I'm sharing and learning so much more than ever before. Exploring life, sharing ideas, being encouraging and encouraged.
We also lived together for a while before we married. The only big change was that we talked and interacted with each other's families more. And yes, it comes with its challenges. There's an expectation from everyone of what married life is supposed to look like. We defied that in many ways--rings, engagements, weddings, work. And it's much easier to do what you want to do, when you have someone beside you who wants to do the same thing, or wants nothing more than to support you in what you want to do. We're partners.
My husband doesn't party as much as he used to, he's almost given up drinking completely. I didn't ask him to do that. Of course, because I don't drink frequently that has rubbed off on him. He reads all the time, he volunteers, he goes on trips with his buddies. He's taking courses to work towards a business diploma, perhaps even an MBA.
He doesn't tell me who to hang out with, or what's an appropriate dress to wear (and I push the boundaries on appropriate all the time--in fact more so after I was married, I felt more confident). I don't tell him who to talk to, or when. Every day we discuss ideas and philosophies, and sometimes its boring, but most of the time its invigorating. The best thing is, there is always someone who is willing to experience things with you.
But if I had married someone else, I don't think any of this would be possible. It depends on what marriage is going to be for you and your partner. It depends on who you are and who your partner is. If you marry someone who loves to party, and you do as well, I don't see why you would change that after you're married.
My partner and I wanted to encourage each other's crazy dreams. And we do that, and we are incredibly happy and looking forward to our next adventure, together.