My mom (who is 53 and divorced) keeps running into scammers via online dating. Where can I find a real single military man for her to write to as a pen pal for good conversations and friendship?Online dating is a really difficult platform to navigate if you are looking for a specific type of person to meet.
Dating, in general, should be more about meeting new types of people and learning about who they are and if they fit well into your lifestyle and choices. I would encourage your mom to meet as many men as she can, just on a friendly basis, to see what types of men of available in her area (both online and offline). I would also suggest having her spend more time at social events or gatherings to increase the number of men she's meeting. It wouldn't be fair for her to just meet one or two guys and assume that there isn't anything out there for her.
Best of luck!