What are some of the things we should know that are not taught in school?
► Rule 1 - Life isn't fair
Hurricane, tsunamis, and natural disasters are not fair.
Genetics and people born more attractive or smarter is not fair. Some people can eat pounds of delicious Haagen Daz ice cream without gaining weight is not fair.
Some garbage celebrity make more $$$ than all your teachers at school combined is not fair.
However, failing to get what you want is not unfair. Disappoint is a part of life, not a sign of the world ripping you off. The world, in fact, doesn't owe you shit.
World hunger is unfair. AIDS is unfair. Not being able to go to the mall in that scandalous dress is not. Not being able to listen to Drake so people at your house can sleep is not.
※ You can't control the unfairness of the world. What you can do is control the way you react. How you react will be the person you become ※
Beyond the walls of the institution, there lies a different world.
Schools and colleges are the places where you realize that shit gets real and you have to deal with it on your own. And this, they cannot teach you at all. Few important things that we can not learn from school or college include:
I had a rough relationship with School. We didn't get along very well.
Here is a list of things School didn't teach me-that I had to learn on my own:
- Wealth is not how much money you make, wealth is how much money you save + invest: We grow up thinking that having a high-paying job makes you wealthy. It doesn't. If you spend as much as you make, you are luxuriously poor.
- The only type of math you will ever need to know (aside from a specialized career) is basic Algebra: I joked when I was 15 years old, sitting in Geometry class and being tested on proofs ("Cole, prove to the class why this is a parallelogram") that I would never, in the history of ever, need to know that information. I was right then, and I'm still right today. When I go to the grocery store and am comparing two bottles of maple syrup, I do not find which bottle is cheaper per fluid ounce by understanding which bottle is, in fact, a parallelogram.
- Taxes, what they are, why they are implemented, and how to effectively pay them as a freelance contractor vs an employee of a business: The only economics class I took was an elective that I chose for fun because I heard the stock market lesson lasted 4 weeks and every week you watched a different movie. Meanwhile, I was being tested maniacally to prove rectangles were rectangles.
- History is biased: What we read in our textbooks is not what is being read in German textbooks, is not what's being read in Chinese textbooks, is not what's being read anywhere else in the world. History is not "what happened in America." History is so much more than that-and unfortunately that element of it is rarely discussed.
- Credit cards, what they are, what they do, and how they function in our society: When you grow up and see your parents swipe their credit cards at places, you sort of don't really know what that's all about until you get your first debit card. And even when you get your debit card, the world of credit cards still remains equally elusive. I don't know why this is something we learn so late in life-and worse, why so many people remain uneducated about the rules behind credit cards, interest rates, and best practices for owning/using one.
- College is not a prerequisite to life. It's something a bunch of people made up as a single option, but is not the only option: Even as monetarily inexperienced as I was as a child, it still made zero sense to me why anyone would go into obscene amounts of debt to go to college if they didn't know what they wanted to study. To me, that was like going to the grocery store and buying wayyy too much food under the pretense that you might be hungry at some point. It also didn't make any sense to me why people placed so much value on the letter grades you received, opposed to what you were able to do with that information. Case in point: I know kids from my high school who were straight A students, voted most likely to succeed, got into some of the best colleges in the US, etc. What are they doing now? Working for some straight-C student who knew how to apply themselves and what they learned.
- Houses and cars do not make you rich. They make you poor. One thing that never gets touched on in school (because most people don't know this) is that big assets like houses and cars do not make you wealthy. They do the opposite. They drain your cash. Wealth is created by taking what you make and re-investing it into something that can eventually either be worth more (so you can re-sell it) or can generate you passive income.
- Studying something that is socially acceptable does not mean you will be successful. I studied creative writing. Creative f*$#king writing. Imagine what people told me I was going to do with that. "Oh, are you going to wear a chapeau and sit by a windowsill and write poetry until you die of poverty?" When you pick something you think is popular to make money, you live an unsatisfied life. When you pick something you love, and keep one eye focused on how to make it lucrative, you spend a lifetime doing what you love-and you are more than able to provide for yourself. I am 26 years old, and I work from my laptop, from anywhere in the world, writing.
- You don't want to fit in. You want to stand out. High school (and even college) is all about fitting in. That's what we're made to believe. We are supposed to "fit in." It's funny, because now people pay me (as a marketing consultant) to understand how to stand out. Don't fit in. Be different.
- There are no "rules" to real life. You figure it out as you go. School instills in us the belief that there are rules to life, and someone else created those rules which you have to follow-you cannot make your own rules. What this does is it creates fear. It makes you afraid, thinking that you aren't "worthy" or "good enough" to forge your own path. And so you look to others to tell you how to live, the "right" way to go, etc. But look around. Everything you see was made by someone else no smarter than you. All they did was decide, "I am going to create this thing." And they did it for so long that it became a social norm.
School doesn't teach you how to think for yourself. It doesn't teach you HOW to learn-it just tells you what it thinks you should learn.
But it's much better to learn HOW to learn.
Learn HOW to acquire skills, improve, and reinvent yourself over time.
Then you can apply that to anything you want, and become whoever you desire.
School theory and REAL life experience is two different things. From my own experience I can say everyone should know these things/skills below.
- The positive mindset ( The importance of believing in yourself and that you can be anyone you want and do whatever you want).
Remember the biggest challenge of life is to have more than you got, because you can become more than you are, unless you change. The power of yourself and power of change!
- Wisdoms of Money. (How money works).
- Always pay yourself First! Try to follow 70/30 system. 10% pay to yourself, 10% give back, 10% invest further. Make your money to work for yourself. 70% spend.
- Put your money in when others take it out and take your money out when others put it in. Buy assets that will bring money to you instead of buying more junk.
- "Your money should be a good bird dog. It helps you find a bird, catch the bird and then goes out to get another bird. Most people's money acts like the bird that just flies away."
- "The philosophy of the rich and the poor is this: the rich invest their money and spend what is left. The poor spend their money and invest what is left."
- "Be careful when you take on debt. If you take on debt personally, make sure it is small. If you take on large debt, make sure someone else is paying for it."
- "The most important word in the world of money is cash flow. The second most important word is leverage."
- "It does not take money to make money."
- "If you depend on your company to take care of your retirement, your future income will be divided by five. Take care of it yourself, and you can multiply your future income by five."
- "To achieve financial independence you must turn part of your income into capital; turn capital into enterprise; turn enterprise into profit; turn profit into investment; and turn investment into financial independence."
- "Change your focus from making money to serving more people. Serving more people makes the money come in."
- Goal Setting
- Goals give you a purpose to live. They make you go forward.
- Goals transform impossible forests into possible paths.
- Goals make us believe in ourselves and help track our progress.
- Goal setting shows and tells you what you truly want in your life.
- Goals keep you undistracted and locked on your road.
- Goals help us to live our life to the fullest and get everything out of it.
Imagine, you have to shoot an arrow, but without being given a target. Where would you aim? And say you did aim at some random thing. Why would you aim there? Is there any purpose for that? Get the idea.. This is just a example of what life is like without a goal or target in your mind. It is pointless and waste of energy and effort, because you don't know where you are going. Truly great words by Zig Ziglar - "If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time." This is so true.
- Gaining New Knowledge (The real reason)
Knowledge are those that determines you quality of life. From your knowledge depends your success, you happiness, your income. Knowledge makes you money. The more you learn the more you earn
In life, you will constantly face problems every day, sometimes problems that you can't possibly seem to overcome. With knowledge, you can improve your abilities of thinking critically and solve them.
Not only does this knowledge help you deal with specific problems, but being put into situations where you have to think critically gives you experience.
Now you know how to react to a problem. You can deal with something and acknowledge when something is beyond you mentally. Most importantly though is that you can gain more knowledge to overcome your problems.
- Investing In Yourself (Personal Development)
When you invest in yourself you grow, your viewpoint become more wiser, you can see much more further than you was able to see before. What you think? Tree gows only half size it could? No, of course no! It grows as tall as it can. It use all of it's potential.
Why not to check you abilites of what you are able to do? Why not to invest as much as you can in yourself. Why not elvove and check you limits. Explore, travel, meet, read, listen, learn new skills. Do as more as you can.
It is easy to understand. If you more invest in your personal development, the more knowledge you will gain about that thing you learn about, so more opportunities will come to your door, because now you know more about it and you become more valuable. As Jim Rohn in one of his seminars said - Success is something you attract not pursue. True happiness is not what you get, it is what you become!
It's very important to work harder on yourself than you do on your job!
- Importance Of Having a Mentor.
Because having a mentor is ultimately about improving your chances of success (in whatever field or creative venture you're pursuing) while feeling more confident about what you're doing.
Find someone who has already succeed in something you want to be successful. Gain knowledge from them.
Look at all succesful people out there.. They all have mentors or coaches.
- Surrounding Yourself With Right And Successful People.
You get positive energy. This energy is contagious. When you hang out with best people you feel truly amazing and big positive energy that flows you way.
You get impressive support. Of course alone you can do and reach amazing and big things but with the right support it could be done faster and also that's great feeling to know that someone supports you.
You will become the best version of you. High quality and successful people are going to pump you up to do extraordinary things and become the best you.
- THE MOST IMPORTANT THNIKG -Taking Focused Action again, again and again..
Because if not, nothing will change in your life! You will never know what could happened if you have taken action... It is so simple, when you TAKE FOCUSED ACTION your whole life starts to change. New people come in your life, new emotions, you start to live your life out of your comfort zone, you jus do not sit on couch watching TV and eating chips and drinking cola. Action gives you moment that creates your memories, it gives you emotion and emotions is worth to remember all your life...
I hope this will help!
These are the things I wasn't taught in school but realised later on in life.
- School just gives you the basics but ultimately you decide how much you learn and if at all you become knowledgeable in anything
- EQ is just as important as IQ. Become self aware so that you are in a position to grow, make yourself happy and avoid the things that don't.
- Life never goes according to plan so you greatest asset is adaptability to circumstances you find yourself in.
- Group work is literally real life. There are one or two leaders who do most of the work and the rest get by adding their name and showing up at the presentation. Ever gotten upset at their easy A? It never stops. There's a lot of people in life who get easy As.
- Personal finance and admin is extremely important but barely touched in school unless you're studying an accounting degree. Know the basics. It will save you a lot of money paying someone else and it will also save you the trouble of being scammed.
- Everyone has there own journey. For example, some coders dropped out of highschool and went on to be millionaires after. Perhaps you might need to take a business class to help you out with strategy. Enjoy your journey, have an idea of your destination but don't in any way think you're a failure because it's different from what your teachers said it should be.
The last thing I think is important is motivation. Find out what motivates you. It will keep you going when the going gets tough and it does get pretty tough when school is over.
How to navigate our jobs
Schools don't actually teach us a career strategy or much about relationship development. Then people arrive on the job, expecting to "pass the test" and rise to the next level. Yet, without a strategy or the right relationshipsthey grow frustrated trying to achieve it.
- It isn't your job to know everything - that's why there are departments
- Niche down and become an expert to increase your value
- Focus on building relationships which will make it easier to move your agenda forward
- It isn't about you, it's about what you can do for your company - so don't complain about what isn't fair as it won't help you achieve more.
- Understand who the influencers are and what they are looking for
- Recognize that corporate politics exists and play the game vs. screaming at it. Politics exist everywhere, even in our friends and families. We just tolerate those a bit more.
- Few bosses or companies will actually care to nurture you, unless you find a way to get under their wing.
- Getting promoted and moving up the corporate ladder is something that can be boiled down to key strategies.
Here are those key strategies, which tie back to the top. Those who want to accelerate their careers...
- They know where they want to go - career goals
- They are in tune with their own self and what is holding them back
- They surround themselves with influencers (includes their boss)
- They express to their boss and influencers what their career goals are
- They can calculate the value they bring/add
- They know how to expose themselves (no not that kind...) - they make sure people know what they are accomplishing
- They deliver
If you want to dive into each of these I recommend you check out the 40 page guide here -The Velocity Labs - Achieve More In Your Career