Which is the best way of living life?
Gets up in morning.
Wears joggers, tee shirt and slippers.
Goes to college, sleeps peacefully there.
Bunks if hungry. Food priorities you know.
Laughs at her own lame jokes. Listens less shit.
Attends a few meets.
Comes back. Studies. Eats. Sleep.
This is how Aasees lives. She is happy this way. She thinks being happy is the best way.
I know a close family friend.
Dedicated Doctor. Loving husband. Caring father. Professionally, he was a very successful person. He ran his own hospital.
He was famous in the area for his many philanthropic deeds, timely help for the needy, and selfless dedication toward his work. Locals had a faith that visiting him would be the cure for most ailments. They trusted him. He was god-like.
He was also famous in my family circles for his strong atheistic views. Reasoning, logic, and objective approaches formed the very core of his life.
My family is deep-rooted in Christianity and thus his stance looked oddly outlandish.
He was very rich, at least compared to most people in my family. My mom and dad do not have a car even now. But this man had three cars ten years ago. He was a dog lover. He had five dogs.
Frequent international tours. Finest food. Stunning cars. Grand lifestyle. Put all these with this: kind, altruistic, balanced, and charismatic personality.
That was him. The perfect package.
Naturally, as a young man, I considered him my role model. I could not sense a false note anywhere.
The final year of my engineering.
He was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer. The news struck us like lightning. The whole family scrabbled its way to his home.
His life came crashing like a meteor. The whole town was in disbelief and shock.
Many stupid but concerned questions were raised: "How could this happen to HIM?" "Why HIM, of all people?" "How could this happen to a Doctor?"
Regardless of the commotion, his time kept ticking. I remember visiting him during his last two months.
I literally stopped breathing for a moment when I entered his home.
The curtains had been enveloped with dust. The floor had not been mopped. The beautiful plants outside had started dying. The cars stood there begging for attention.
Three of the five dogs had been given away. "He wanted to keep Fido and Henry until..." the maid said with a trembling voice, holding on to my mom.
Every face in the home was grief-stricken. Death prevailed in the room. There was an absolute silence in the home. Deafening silence.
When I walked to his bed-side, every tinge of charm, glamour, and life his face once had had deserted him. He was pale and lifeless.
There were pastors in his home. He had apparently requested for people from all faiths to pray for him. There were bibles all over. Verses from the Quran and bible had been pasted all over the wall.
His wife told me about the changes he had been showing ever since the diagnosis. That night, I witnessed the horrors of his pain.
I was in the hall and I could hear him wailing in his room. "Someone save me. Take this pain away from me. Jesus, please hear me. I beg you. IS THERE A GOD WHO HEARS ME?"
I could clearly hear him sobbing like a 10-year old. I could hear thumps. Slaps. Something clawing the ground. Something being dragged on the floor. Something wriggling.
A few minutes later.
"Darling, forgive me. PLEASE FORGIVE ME. PLEASE TELL ME I WILL LIVE.. JUST TELL ME...JUST....ahhhhhhh"
And then some unintelligible mumbling. Muffled screams. Muted and menacing.
This continued for almost an hour. And then, silence, marred intermittently by a woman sobbing. His wife.
The next morning, the wife said that such nights had become a norm. She said how badly she wished he died instead of enduring the pain.
I heard her crying into my mom's chests: "Akka, I want him to die, but he keeps saying some miracle will happen and he will survive."
I left his home, but my mom told me of how his final hours were.
"He kept begging to ALL the gods before stumbling into unconsciousness." "He sobbed, pleadingly."
He kept believing in a miracle. He waited.
We hold on to so many ideologies. Beliefs. Plans. Rules. Policies. Everything is just a facade.
When your oxygen runs out. When the last drop of your blood trickles down. When the last month of your life nears. When the last moment arrives.
When your life is on the cliffhanger, the human inside you kicks his way out. Trembling. Begging. Pleading. Disproving all the massive facades you had built all your life.
Every brick of the wall you have built will be blown to smithereens. Your knowledge will vanish. Remember, the man who waited for a miracle was a doctor.
You and I are fragile. Just wet fluttering tissues.
Stop building facades. Be whoever you want to be. Atheist. Religious. Fat. Thin. Rich. Poor. Famous. Obscured.
It does not matter. Just Start living while you still can. Love more. Live more. Lose the hatred. Lose the arrogance.
'Cause no matter how you choose to live, death beckons.
But, Who am I to tell you how to live your life?
These are the things I think I follow, but sometimes I fail. Still, as you have asked, I will name them.
- Be righteous at not just when its convenient, but every-time.
- Don't be un-trustworthy. Easy to lose trust, very difficult to build it.
- Be happy, and spread happiness.
- Try not to stress yourself too much.
- It doesn't hurt to be nice.
- Learn to say NO.
- Try your best to be punctual, everyone respects a punctual man
- Relationships are very important (Read Robin Sharma's Who will cry when you die)
- Be helpful to others when possible, what goes around comes around.
- Believe in the concept of Karma.
- Try to be straightforward, honest (not brutally)and also, an occasional white lie wouldn't hurt.
- Always try to remember that time is running out, make the best use of it.
- Try not to search for meaning of life, because finding that meaning will take a whole lifetime and then some. (Pretty needless when you are young, I must say)
- Dwelling on previous mistakes not only shortens your lifespan but also eats away your peace of mind.
- Learn to move on.
- Don't ever do business with family members, friends, relatives (Jack ma said this, so true)
- Try to handle criticisms and expect them in every walk of life.
- Try to remind yourself that the .world doesn't revolve around you. Try to be humble, always.
- Have some principle you would never break, that gives you character.
- One a liar, always a liar. (Applies to thief, cheat, laziness, slacker, accused everything else)
- Spend on experiences rather than unwanted things.
- Learn from other's mistakes. We all don't have time to make all of them.
- Sleeping or taking rest, playing games is never a waste of time. Every second you spend unwinding adds to your health.
- Forgiving is for your benefit not the other way around.
- If you have good company, you are halfway there.
- Choose your friends wisely, enemies too. If you describe your enemies, I can describe you.
- Never ever screw with people with power (Police, politician, government, management) unless you are prepared to go ALL THE WAY.
- Use communication to the fullest. Avoid drama, unless you like it.
- Giving up on dreams will always haunt you. A person with big dreams will definitely win over the one with all the facts.
- Never ever call a girl fat. NEVER.
I guess that's all I can think of right now.
Hope it helps.
Who am I to tell you how to live your life?
PS : Thanks for the A2A.
Until you actually live life on your terms...
- Take a 10-30 Minutes Walk Every Day. And While You Walk, Smile.
- Sit In Silence For At Least 10 Minutes Each Day.
- Sleep For 7 Hours.
- Live With The 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, And Empathy.
- Play More Games.
- Read More Books Than You Did In 2015.
- Make Time To Practice Meditation, Yoga, And Prayer. They Provide Us With Daily Fuel For Our Busy Lives.
- Spend Time With People Over The Age Of 70 & Under The Age Of 6.
- Dream More While You Are Awake.
- Eat More Foods That Grow On Trees And Plants And Eat Less Food That Is Manufactured In Plants.
- Drink Plenty Of Water.
- Try To Make At Least Three People Smile Each Day.
- Don't Waste Your Precious Energy On Gossip.
- Forget Issues Of The Past. Don't Remind Your Partner With His/her Mistakes Of The Past. That Will Ruin Your Present Happiness.
- Don't Have Negative Thoughts Or Things You Cannot Control. Instead Invest Your Energy In The Positive Present Moment.
- Realize That Life Is A School And You Are Here To Learn. Problems Are Simply Part Of The Curriculum That Appear And Fade Away Like Algebra Class But The Lessons You Learn Will Last A Lifetime.
- Eat Breakfast Like A King, Lunch Like A Prince And Dinner Like A Beggar.
- Smile And Laugh More.
- Life Is Too Short To Waste Time Hating Anyone. Don't Hate Others.
- Don't Take Yourself So Seriously. No One Else Does.
- You Don't Have To Win Every Argument. Agree To Disagree.
- Make Peace With Your Past So It Won't Spoil The Present.
- Don't Compare Your Life To Others'. You Have No Idea What Their Journey is All About. Don't Compare Your Partner With Others.
- No One Is In Charge Of Your Happiness Except You.
- Forgive Everyone For Everything .
- What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your Business.
- GOD ! Heals Everything.
- However Good Or Bad A Situation Is, It Will Change.
- Your Job Won't Take Care Of You When You Are Sick. Your Friends Will. Stay In Touch.
- Get Rid Of Anything That Isn't Useful,Beautiful Or Joyful.
- Envy Is A Waste Of Time. You Already Have All You Need.
- The Best Is Yet To Come.
- No Matter How You Feel, Get Up, Dress Up And Show Up.
- Do The Right Thing!
- Call Your Family Often.
- Your Inner Most Is Always Happy. So Be Happy.
- Each Day Give Something Good To Others.
- Don't Over Do. Keep Your Limits.
- When You Awake Alive In The Morning, Thank GOD For It.
Source: Somewhere on the internet.
- The power of Authenticity
- The most important gift can ourselves is the commitment to living our Authentic life.
- To be true to ourselves , however , is not easy task.
Nobody likes unwanted drama. I think by 'simple' here, they mean a drama free, commotion free and a uncomplicated life. Well, to be honest, humans do complicate things. Especially young adults like me. But what we can do is try and remind ourselves how important it becomes to live a simple yet a full life for ourselves.
- Avoid expectations from others. Know what to expect from whom.
- Never regret the chances you didn't take. As cliché as it sounds, it really is quite easy and simple to do.
- If something or someone makes you happy, go for it! Cus at the end of the day if we're not happy, we're not at peace.
- Avoid bitching and talking bad behind or even in front of people. Never know what the other person might be going through.
- Avoid talking to people who pull your confidence level down. They don't deserve to be a part of your life.
- Travel often to experience the various cultures and traditions from around the world.
- YOGA! It helps a ton in rejuvenation of your entire mind and soul.
- Find happiness in the smallest of things. And stop cribbing about what went wrong.
- Count 5 great things that happened to you in a day and be grateful for all of them.
- Try and possess less materialistic things. Sometimes the lesser you have, the happier you get.
- Be modest and straightforward at most times. When you can't commit for something let that be crystal clear.
- Don't be greedy for money. It can kill you from inside out.
- Don't take life too seriously. Take life day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute and cherish it while you can. Because, later down the line, you'll feel you've lost all those moments that's left unfulfilled.
- Remember that inner happiness and peace of mind, both, are highly essential for living a simple life.