What makes you feel grateful?
The little things.
Something had been bothering me for a good while recently but I haven't been able to talk to anyone about it, partly because of my hectic routine and partly because I didn't want to bother anyone with the same old depressive shit.
Yesterday I got off work at a decent hour and decided to go to one of my best friend's place to check on her because she was unwell. She had been through a nasty bout of food poisoning and seemed weak, but otherwise it looked like she was recovering.
We got to talking and things came up, as they inevitably do.
I didn't actually want to confide in anyone about this particular thing because it felt like they won't get it and I'd come off as a pathetic weirdo. So when I told her the things that were bothering me, I gave an objective description without much inflection.
Though I did not convey the way I felt, she reacted the exact same way at the precise moment I had done.
It was oddly pacifying.
It made me feel a little less of an idiot.
Like someone understood, even without having to explain.
That made me immensely grateful.
A feeling called 'Grateful' - an apt title for a book called 'Life'.
What makes me feel grateful :
1) The fact that here I am, taking another breath, taking another moment for granted.
2) The fact that I have food in my belly and not hunger on my mind.
3) The fact that I have limbs which are capable enough to do whatever I want them to (nothing against people w/o them, it's just a matter of perception).
4) The fact that I have all my 5 senses in absolute order trying to make some 'sense' in this world (nothing against people w/o them, it's again a matter of perception).
5) The fact that I have my parents around to welcome me when I step through the door from work.
6) The fact that I have a smartphone with the latest technology at my disposal and yet there still are people in my country for whom internet is a distant dream.
Whenever I observe, I feel grateful.
You should too. If you do, you are doing your bit by acknowledging what you have over others. It's not that they have anything less, but in worldly terms, spare a thought for those uncounted heads!
As David Gilmour puts it -
"I need no blessings, but I am counting mine"
After rigorous penance for about 40 days on a hill, Jesus presented the essence of all His future messages through the prayer followed by a miracle. Thousands of people gathered, who became very hungry in the hot mid-day. There were only four pieces of bread in the basket. Jesus uplifted the basket and did not pray God to provide more pieces of bread for the sake of hungry devotees. He prayed God expressing the gratefulness for providing those four pieces of bread and asked the disciples to serve those four pieces. Jesus thanked God looking at the past and was not worried about the problem of present and future. There is no need of any suggestion to the omniscient and omnipotent God. Sometimes you may have to remind your superior officer regarding some suggestions related to the situations in the present and in the future. The reason is that your officer is a human being with a limited brain and limited capacity. But in the case of God, such requirement does not arise. Since Jesus did not ask for the provision of more pieces of bread, it is quite possible that God might have kept silent. Even if Jesus asked, for more pieces of bread, God might have kept silent. The reason for such silence may be to test the devotees regarding their interest in the divine knowledge in spite of the hunger. Jesus will think in this way only if the miracle was not done. He would have not uttered a single word of blame if the miracle was not performed. That is the real devotion to God. Jesus wanted to preach such devotion to the public.
You should always pray God with full gratefulness looking at your past. God has already granted 100 favours giving you this human birth, which itself is the first favour. Health, wife, children, money, education, devotion etc. are the 100 favours already done to you by God. Your prayer never touches any of these favours already done to you in the past. Jesus explained that even the problems are also favours, which stimulate you to come near to God. His idea was that you should thank God even for the problems, which help you to develop the devotion to God. In the worldly affairs, you should be reverse to this concept. You should never think past and concentrate only on present and future in your worldly duties. Hence, God is reverse to the world.
Today, the prayers concentrate on the problems of the present, expecting the happiness of their relief in the future. According to Jesus, your prayer should be mere acknowledgement of the past favours done by God to you. Since this direction is absent, you have become the most ungrateful devil forgetting the long list of favours already done to you by God. Nobody mentions even a single favour already granted by God. From the beginning to the end, the prayer concentrates on the present and future only assuming that the favours already done were due to the results of good deeds performed by the individual. In such case, continue with the good deeds and naturally your present and future will be good. Where is the need of prayer to God?
Here i am, having a walk on the terrace, after i had a yummy dinner to the fullest.
Listening to music and admist of the lyrical music, there comes another voice chanting, " aaloo lelo, gobhi lelo...".
I go towards the grilled wall and see from the top that most of his carriage (rehdi) is still full of veggies, that were meant to be sold, but he couldn't find the required number of customers.
At that very moment, a query arises in my heart, what if he was trying so hard, so that he could sell these, which otherwise may rote up, which had little probability as time is already past 10 here, and people are busy watching TVs, or sleeping.
There might be a case that his family was waiting for him to bring the food, but he wasn't able to earn enough during the whole day..
Here i am, filled to the fullest at stomach, demanding more varities in the meals, may be not grateful enough for what i have.
Not everyone one gets to eat 3 meals a day. Many even sleep with empty stomachs..
I realize should i should be grateful to for whatever i have and get as there are people out, who dream of having a life i am having.
In one of the books that I have read, The author mentions about a friend who was always happy although he was a hobo, so he asked him the secret. His friend told him that when he was a kid, his mom taught him to everyday make a golden list of 10 things he was grateful for that day. He said since that day every morning when he woke up he used to make the list and he was never sad although many a days he would not get to eat.
Since then I have too started making the golden list of 10 things I am grateful for everyday. No matter what condition we are in, we always have a lot of things to be happy about. For Eg our health, roof over our head, food to eat, clothes to wear, friends and family to care about us and many more things.
So I would suggest you too to do the same.