When do you admit to yourself that your dreams might never come true? What do you do next?
A2A Never. Sometimes you've just got to rework your plan. If your dream is the thing that you want to do most in life regardless of how much money it would take or skills you'd have to learn, just keep going.
Here are steps you can follow to achieve any dream:
- Find someone who's doing what you want to do and find out how they did it. Read their story or talk to them if possible. I didn't even realize sewing for rockstars was a thing, but when I found out someone got to do it, I said to myself, why not me??
- If your dream has never been achieved by anyone else before start doing research and find out what it would take to do such a thing. In my case I loved and was already working in the music business and I already knew how to sew, if not I'd have to learn!
- If you need certain skills to achieve this dream, start learning them, practicing them and mastering them. For me, that was sewing.
- If you can take any step toward the direction of this dream, take it. I started sewing part time while doing my day job, 5 years later I was finally able to quit my day job and sew for a living.
- Believe in yourself
- Imagine yourself doing your dream job from every angle
- Ask the Universe to bring you people, opportunities and awareness that will lead you towards your goals.
- Network with people related to your dream
- If something goes wrong, don't give up, learn, adjust your path, try something new, do it again.
- Never allow anyone else's opinion of your dreams cause you to give up. Live to prove them wrong as I did.
Let me know if you need anymore help or advice.
Also try reading "4 Hour Work Week" by Tim Ferriss and "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. Those books helped me.
Also "Unlimited Abundance" by Christie Marie Sheldon
Start getting excited!!!
It'd be a crying shame if you wanted the same things at 18 as you wanted at 11.
I'm 37, and I have to say, 7 years is a lifetime!
Isn't your body replaced down to the atomic level every 7 years?
Why would your dreams stay static and stagnant?
I've been a child, a teen, an apprentice (for 15 years, two lifetimes!!!), and now a journeyman for 5 years now... thankfully, by the time I've come near yesterday's dreams I've often found myself already looking toward the horizon for the yet unknown dreams of tomorrow.
You sound very smart, but ease (joy!) at letting unfruitful things go; a prerequisite for new growth, is more of a wisdom thing... that I didn't get until I had a swarm more years under my belt, but likely you will be a faster learner than I!
You were a smart child.
Now you are a smart young man or woman.
7 years from now, you'll be 28 and likely fully baked into your own man or woman, at which point it will be just SAD if you have the same dreams as you are seeking now.
(Unless of course you find yourself happy, in which case, keep doing that thing.)
Keep changing... and if you get the chance, go out on the road... finding new dreams is a lot easier when you wander the earth a bit!!!
The curse of America is the American Dream and the claim that anyone can achieve the American Dream, if they work or pray hard enough to achieve it. This is a falsehood that destroys peace, creates borders and competing groups and differences among us, and leads to human chaos and misery, instead of the fulfillment of dreams.
When one admits that they will not achieve the American Dream, she or he can begin to abandon the illusion and start to live life without the stress of dreaming for things that will never happen or are extremely unlikely will ever happen.
One can become, for example, a seeker of real truth, instead of a seeker of American Dream fulfillment, which will never come. The Internet and the World Wide Web provide answers to life basics questions, including human reality and who we are and why we exist.
Exploring the real truth about human reality becomes more productive and rewarding than trying to hang on to the American Dream.
Each human being can find her or his own purpose in life. That is a happier pursuit than to attempt to follow the American Dream.
Thanks, Rick, for the request to answer. Good luck!
For me, it was after I was shot in the head, recovered and returned to my college engineering studies, that I discovered, I could no longer comprehend the math required to complete my degree in electronic engineering. I was devastated, as that had been my focus and destiny since I was 5 years old when I was shocked by a lawnmower spark plug.
I was numb and in a state of shock for 6–7 years after that traumatic brain injury, but eventually over came the challenges and went on to art school studying serigraphy and photography. I spent the next several year involved in a Washington DC art group, had shows and such but increasingly grew skeptical in the politics of the DC art scene and finally drifted away . . .
In my view, unless there are hardships that you or your family have to endure on a regular basis and they stop you from going for it, the only reason you don't fulfill your dream is that it isn't your dream to begin with.
In case you cannot financially or logically afford/sustain efforts in achieving your life goal, it's a plausible and a very real reason. You may wake up tomorrow with a dream to walk on water. You may even feel passionate about it, but achieving it isn't logical. Similarly, a young girl from a poor ghetto may want to become an Oxford graduate, but she may be hard pressed to get resources to fulfill this dream.
But if that isn't stopping you, then nothing else should. If you really, passionately, with all your heart and soul, want something real bad, you will achieve it eventually. You may lose out on other things in the process, things that may matter a lot to you: time spent with friends and family, relationships, relaxing, having good food, entertainment, academics, other easier and more rational opportunities. But if you really are after that goal of yours with all your might, losing out on these things won't matter to you a whole lot.
But if you stop in the way and, even for the smallest part, prioritise anything else then it cannot be your ultimate goal. It would only be a fleeting, temporary pursuit of that particular phase of your life.
Remember, every goal demands sacrifices of some kind.
You say you are nowhere near the best in your "ambition"? Invest time in it, practice it, learn about it in whichever way you can. Become the absolute best at it.
Your academics will take a hit? So be it. That'll be a sacrifice.
Your parents won't allow you? Convince them, stick to your ground, ask them for time and don't take no for an answer. That'll be a sacrifice.
You'll lose out on a potentially secure and lucrative job? You'll lose out on your friends and probably won't be able to give time to your girlfriend/boyfriend? You'll probably have to live in discomfort for some time, or away from home for this?
Do it, regardless.
If you're sure that this is your dream, that is.
If you aren't, or if you cannot make these sacrifices, then don't. But remember, you then lose your right to call it your ambition, your passion. It will only be a temporary pursuit.
Are you ready to call it that?
Here's how the realization struck me.
We may have lots of ideas about what we could do. Most of them require years of transformation and persistence. We blow off most of them, and eventually tacitly acknowledge to ourselves that we chose to do so.
If you subscribe to the 10,000-hours theory (the amount of time you need to master your craft), and you realize you don't have the appetite for it, or that you're 1,000 hours in and you're not doing as well as other people who have put in 1,000 hours and maybe your odds kind of suck...well, it's perfectly fine to change your mind.
You're trying to figure out what's going to make you happy. If new information says, "not this particular dream," then make a list of what you liked about pursuing it, and what you didn't like. Add to your list, "Things learned about the world," and "Things learned about myself."
Look at that list and see if you can carry those skills and insights into a new area that is more likely to make you happy.