Would you say that life is hard?
Without a shadow of a doubt!! All I can say is that it doesn't matter what I say or do, you will learn that it is hard only through experience over the years. People you used to hang out so much in college with, you now phone them once a year on their birthday. Your best female friend gets married and doesn't share as much with you as you would like; your best male friend leaves the country and that's when you realise you're all alone. Here are a couple of things that I suggest you do:
- Using a pen and a paper write down everything you like that others have (this has to be friends that you know, not actors, but real people you have met and interacted with frequently)- could be as simple as the way they walk, their sense of fashion, the sunglasses they have, a beautiful wife, the way they play the guitar et cetera. Once you have written down all these things the Next step is to start doing it. I remember just because somebody else as these qualities, doesn't mean that they have an edge over you. It's all based on the effort and quantity of when you put in. Ten years ago I may have been quite fat, today after years of working out I'm comparable to some of the guys I used to envy in college.
- Knowing everything that you know today, if you could go back 15 years and tell your younger self to change one aspect what would that be? For me it is quite simple, I would have told me to stop concentrating so much on studies and instead learn how to connect with people, go out to clubs, go with friends for drinks, join some dance classes or learn how to flirt with someone because after some time you realise the skills you really need in life to overcome the hard times, can't be found in books or in schools.