Would you still marry your spouse if they insisted on having a Prenuptial Agreement?
In fact, I wouldn't agree to marry anyone who refuses to sign a prenuptial agreement.
To me, a marriage is not much different from forming a business partnership.
Both marriage and business partnership are arrangements where parties agree to cooperate in order to advance their mutual interest, to amplify their reach, and to increase the likelihood of achieving their respective life goals.
Marriage, just like business partnership, is a legally enforced relationship which brings the involved parties with special challenges that must be navigated and negotiated into agreement.
I honestly can't believe that anyone in their right mind would walk into a legally enforced partnership without knowing how their properties would be divided, or what the terms of spousal support would be in the event of divorce.
I'm aware for a fact that the vast majority of startups would not sustain for over two years. Even if they manage to survive that long, chances are they would not make a huge profit. Statistically, the vast majority of marriages last longer than that, and the involved parties may derive a bit more profit, but I'm pragmatic enough to prepare for the worst.
Of course, it is unrealistic that everything could be covered in a prenuptial agreement. Therefore, trust, communication, pragmatism and cooperation are crucial for a healthy marriage.
The fact that most people romanticize marriages makes me cringe.
Those unwilling to sign a prenuptial agreement might have been brainwashed by the "until death do us part."
If under the most unlikely circumstances, I get married, "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part" is the last thing I want to hear, because I cannot promise that.
In fact, if my significant other has suddenly gained 100 lbs or got a crew cut without my permission, my feeling for them would change for sure.
When I love someone, I love who they are at the moment and under this circumstances. Had things got better or worse, I cannot guarantee that my feelings won't change.
In case I ever get married.....
Forget about "from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer....."
I'd prefer something realistic, for example, "I vow to stick with you through thick and thin, provided we agree upon an acceptable definition of "thick." With that in mind, we should also settle on units of measurement: Pounds? Waist size? BMI?"
Forget about "in sickness and in health...."
Please say, "I promise to be there for you in sickness and health, but maybe in the next room if you're super sick... like mucus-filled tissues thrown everywhere and stuff, because ewww."
Seriously, aside from prenuptial agreement, the only vow I need is that my partner will always be honest with me from the moment.