Am I being emotionally abused by my alcoholic husband?

Whether or not he has practiced abuse, living in the world of an alcoholic is harmful.  He must create a world where what he does is ok.  He must serve his God first, the bottle.  He must be loyal to his life partner, drink.  You may be a valued

Am I in danger of my husband becoming abusive?

Number 1: If you feel something is wrong, then it's wrong. If you aren't confortable with his current behavior, then you are allowed to leave. Number 2: Read Number 1 again. Number 3: Go to a safe location and call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline. 1-800-799-7233 Ask questions. Number

Divorce: Why does my ex husband phone me to put me down and argue?

The possibilities are numerous but I think there are a few that are consistent in the situation you describe. It could be that he desires to communicate with you more. For example, if you shut him out (not saying you have) and the only way he can get you to engage

How to get my husband to fall back in love with me after I cheated on him

After an episode of infidelity, I say you must give your partner some time to regain their senses. It's tough to say whether they will still love you or not. Cheating on your partner is a breach of trust. It shakes the entire ground of your relationship and

How to stop hoping that my narcissist husband will change

By educating yourself about narcissism more than you already have. It sounds like you haven't fully accepted that NPDs don't change. Once you make peace with that, you'll give up hope. Hope can be a chain that keeps you shackled to your abuser. Hope is closely linked to denial.

I am my husband's second wife. He left his 1st wife but now has brought her back. What should I do?

To give a little background...We are an inter country and inter religion couple. We dated for 5 years as my husband came to my country for studies. When he went back, due to family pressure and careless attitude towards me he married a girl of his parent's choice. However he was unhappy in the relationship and realized it

I cheated on my husband. I had an affair with a guy who does not know I am married. I want to end this affair but am afraid that my bf might tell my husband everything and I don't want to spoil my marriage. What should I do?

I had the same problem except my lover knew I was married and he also knew I was unhappy so he was my scape from the unhappy frivolous marriage. We always had a crazy attraction for each other and even before I got married we had started meeting for lunch or coffe.

I don't want my husband in the delivery room when I give birth. My husband respects my decision but my mother in law doesn't. Now she's sending rude texts to me and arguing with my husband. What can I do?

Tell her she had her children, now you will have yours. Let her know that you consider it odd that she would intrude on someone's personal and intimate choices especially since she was not asked to be involved. You all need to carefully consider how pushy and

I found out today that my husband's best friend is cheating on his wife, who I am pretty close with. Should I tell her?

Wow. That situation really sucks loudly.For whatever little it's worth, here's a guys' perspective from someone who's been in your shoes and lost two dear friends because of it... this is one of those No Win situations, no matter what

I had an year long relationship with a married woman without her husband knowing about it. Should she tell her husband about it?

Both of you already spoiled her husband life, she decided to go back to her husband it means she is bored with you now so she is going back it is hurting I know but that is the fact,People get bored

I know my husband deletes text messages that he doesn't want me to see. What should I do about it?

I guess I'm wondering why you are looking your husband's texts.You know, I've been married for over 10 years, and not once have I had the urge to check anyone's phone - or had mine checked.I guess I'd be shown texts if I asked to see them, but I've never

I want to have another baby, my husband does not want another. What step do I need to take to convince him?

Well you need to Respect his decision because he's entitled to his feelings or choices he makes.you also have to think about the financial aid do you have the money to provide for another baby? Do you have time for another kid? If you're always working or

If my husband not ambition person should I divorce?

Your choices, as I see them based on available limited information, are:divorce:  hope you can figure out how to select for "as good as my ex, PLUS ambitious" next timeacceptance:  this man was good enough at the time I married him, and it didn't occur to me to

If my wife is bisexual, how could I as a husband satisfy her other needs?

So, about 19 years ago my new wife of only a year, had always been sensitive about her underwear drawer. I thought it an odd fixation, but ignored it on the premise that we were newlyweds and maybe she was embarrassed like going to the bathroom in front of your new spouse. One day I finished

I'm a newly wed. How can I be a good wife to my husband?

My wife and I are best friends who happen to be married. With that comes mutual respect. Be your own person - be yourself. Don't change who you are for your mate, or be the person you think your mate wants you to be. Sure, some things are a compromise, but

My brother do not like my husband. He always start debate whenever he see my husband. What should I do?

You need to have a serious discussion with your brother with your parents present if their alive, does anyone else in your family knows that he does this? He seems to have a personality clash or some kind of hidden agenda.....either or this needs to cease immediately or it's going to cause a serious rift in your relationship with

My cousin sister always compares my husband with her husband behavior. What should I do?

Let her talk.Unless she is saying hurtful and/or false things about your husband to make her husband look better. Then you should tell her that her comparisons are inappropriate and inaccurate, and she is to stop it. NOW.If she does

My daughter wants to be a mechanic, but my husband won't allow it. What should I do with my controlling husband?

i was a mechanic for years - this, like many other jobs has shifted dramatically, it is more and more about diagnostics, not the grease and wrenches, so if your husband is worried about that, it has reducedalso, most mechanics anymore wear surgical gloves which will reduce the chances of dermatitis [occupational disease]many women are concerned about talking to

My husband and I already have two kids under 3 and now my husband wants another. Is it wrong that I feel like he's trying to trap me?

I am going to answer this as a mom, wife, and person. This is my personal feelings and experience on the matter. I almost considered going anon, but this is how I feel and felt. It's real and no shame in it. If my husband reads this

My husband and I have been together for about three years, married for four months. I'm starting to realize marriage is not for me and want to get a divorce. How do I tell my husband without losing him?

Hi Alex,I got married at 21 and about 8 weeks later realized I had made a big mistake. I only got married because it was suppose to be what people do-get married, have kids, buy a home and a couple of

My husband and I just don't seem to be on the same page anymore. We been working on our communication and words of affirmation but it just doesn't seem to work. What can we do? Can our marriage be saved?

The question for both of you is...do you really want to save it?You've done some of the ‘traditional' things and they haven't worked for you.You need to ask each other and be COMPLETELY HONEST...do you really want this to work? If you do, then its going to take work, dedication

My husband cheated on me and claims that this is my fault. What should I do?

Get out of the relationship asap, in no way is it your fault. Did you find a woman and force him to sleep with her? Because that is the only way it would be your fault. Think about it, he's blaming you for his

My husband does not fulfill his responsibilities as a husband and as a father. Do I have to be separated from my husband or do I have to remain in our marriage?

If his failures are profound as you describe them in a handful of stark words, then you must separate from him with a clear ultimatum. With children, the situation is particularly grave, with heavy obligations to try everything possible to save the marriage for the benefit of the little ones.

My husband does not fulfill his responsibilities as a husband Do I have to be separated from my husband or do I have to remain in our marriage?

In situations like this, it's good to review ancient wisdom explaining how men and women ought to interact.The Song of Songs is a poem which was written in Hebrew 3 or 4,000 years ago to explain how husbands and wives should interact.  It was preserved by meticulous hand-copying over the centuries because it so

My husband does not want kids, but I need them? Would it be unreasonable for me to leave him for not having children with me?

I think it's a perfectly reasonable thing to do. But, it kind of depends on how old you are, to some extent. If you are still in your twenties, I'd say give him a few years. He very well may come around. If you are already in your

My husband doesn't care if I'm unhappy or unhealthy. Will not even bother to ask what's wrong. We don't even have any casual conversations. I am married and having a child. How to get along with him?

How to get along with him?? Sounds like a hard one to find a solution. Especially when he sees you as a pleasurable and reproductive material. Since you asked to reconcile, this will test your patience to the core. Ask his friends and see is there a

My husband doesn't want to fight for us?

Relationships are complicated especially if both spouses are working or if they have children. Sometimes the right way to improve your marriage is to all take time off from stress by going to the beach, going on a hike or otherwise changing what you normally do.Because my husband

My husband doesn't wipe right. I always tell him he stinks, but then he gets mad at me. What should I do?

That's disgusting. I wouldn't be polite about it all, because I would think that ‘Stink' was using it as a defence mechanism and expects me to accept being served shit. Just No. People who stink like shit for their partners

My husband has a bad temper so I'm nervous to leave him with the kids at times. Should I add cameras to the house to see how he acts when I'm not home?

There is a difference between having a ‘bad temper' and being abusive. Have you every witnessed him being abusive to the children physically or emotionally? Has he ever raised a hand to YOU or done anything even remotely abusive?If you do something sneaky, like setting up cameras, without his knowledge you are

My husband has a relationship with another girl, but I love him. What can I do now?

Is he in love with her, or is it just a fling?  By 'just a fling', I don't mean to minimize it, but there is a difference, and it could mean the defining factor for you.   Do you know if she's the first one he's cheated with?  If he is just having a fling

My husband has another woman. What should I do?

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My husband has been helping out an older and lonely lady with some works around the house. When I met her, she called me ugly behind my husband's back. Why did she do this?

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My husband has filed for divorce and is not ready to give his property details. How can I get them?

It would depend upon many factors. Where the case is filed, is it legal requirement for him to give these details etc.So unless you come out with complete details, no answer is possible,Regards,Shonee Kapoor498a Advisor Shonee Kapoor

My husband is a narricist and hates me how do I leave?

Walk away with a backpack if you must but you will have your dignity and sanity.I have no idea what your situation is but don't have any children with him, or no more children with him. Ask questions at a local women's shelter

My husband is always criticizing me. What should I do?

I have been there. My ex-husband was extremely critical (and cruel in other ways as well.) It can be very painful to live with constant criticism endlessly wearing away at your sense of self.Your husband either has a bad habit that he could change if he cared

My husband is an addict and I no longer can keep putting my children and myself through this constant roller coaster of ups and downs but I don't have a job. How can I leave my husband and give my children a life they deserve?

Prepare to leave him. This means finding out everything you can about any assets, including retirement assets, that he owns, whether your name is on that asset or not. if you can copy statements from banks, etc., even better. Put those copies in a safe place, possibly with

My husband is cheating on me, what should I do?

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My husband is having an affair and I know who it is, a 50 year old, and he is 29! We have a baby. How do I prove that he is cheating legally? Do I need to take pictures? What would you do?

So sorry.  Sin sucks.  It hurts us all.  Why do you need legal proof?  Perhaps your courts require it for divorce proceedings?  You would need a licensed, professional private investigator to provide legal testimony and exhibits to a court in my state.  This could provide a better outcome for you in divorce proceedings.

My husband is very selfish and refuses to accept responsibility for anything. Why is that?

The chances are you are quite correct and that he is in fact selfish and refuses to accept responsibility for anything. I have seen this behaviour on many occasions, it is not uncommon, unfortunately.Why is he like that? Because for some reason, this was a successful strategy when he was growing up. He has probably

My husband left so we can work things out. What should I do now?

I'm not really sure what that question means.If he wants to

My husband looking for a second wife. What can change his mind?

I don't understand why this husbands think they can do what so ever they like with us. I'm in the same situation, I have been married for more than 10 years now with 3 beautiful children . My husband keep telling me he will want a second wife, I asked him why

My husband nearly begged me to be a stay at home mom but now he only gives me money for groceries or household items anytime I ask for more he just says no. What should I do?

Start looking for a job and as soon as you find one tell him (tell, don't ask) you're taking it to earn the extra money you want. Then be prepared for a battle.Your husband

My husband of 9 years just told me hes questioning giving up our marriage and kids for a woman at his job what should I do?

ASK HIM HOW WOULD IT BE IF U LEFT HIM WITH HIS KIDS AND MOVE ON WITH SOMEONE....... WILL HE ACCEPT IT..... IF SOITS BETTER TO DIVORCE HIMPLZ PLAN KIDS AND UR FUTUREMAKE SURE UR FINANCIALLY SAFE AND SECURED .because this is time ull be

My husband of two years divorced me but still wanted to live with me. What should I do?

Excuse me, but what part of "I don't know what's in his mind" are you fooling yourself about?It's clear to me.  He wants to live with you, and see her.  Heck, you can probably cook better than the ex.  I might want to live with you, too.  I can't cook.Do you want to take care of a man

My husband said he doesn't love me. Should I leave him?

Yes. You cannot force someone to love you. You are meant to someone out there.I know it is not easy for you. Can you re-assess yourself on why he no longer loves you? See yourself in the mirror and ask why? There could

My husband said he wants a divorce but still wants to be with me. What does this mean?

Well, the most charitable answer that I can think of is that he wants to skip the next five or ten difficult years in both of your lives and fast forward to the healed versions of each of you.I understand this impulse,

My husband slapped me in the face. What do I do now?

Let me start by saying how sorry I am for what he's put you through, and proud that you took the right action. I'm sure you're confused, hurt, worried even and possibly scared about your future, but hopefully the courage you had to ask him to

My husband speaks to his mother a few times a day. I hate it. Am I wrong?

Well my husband calls his mother maybe once a week if that. Or depending what his mother wants she call once a month or everyday. Like for instance just a few weeks ago, she was calling everyday because something was wrong with her laptop and she

My husband talks bad about me to his friends but treats me normal like nothing is wrong. What should I do?

who told you he talks bad about you in front of his friends?did you overhear him or someone just told you about that?if someone did tell you, then you need to assess that person's credibility, can they really be trusted blindly in

My husband thinks I am cheating on him. What can I do?

What you are trying to do is to convince someone by explanation or by behavior, which is an explanation anyway, and that's just not possible. For you, that is. Let me put it this way: it is possible, but if you could do it you wouldn't be asking, and no answer is going to tell you how

My husband threatens divorce every time we argue, should I take him serious?

Threatening divorce is completely unacceptable in a relationship.Likely he's coming from a place of insecurity, but that doesn't make it okay.Sit him down and say,

My husband walked in on me having sex with another man. Now he wants a divorce. Is this reasonable of him?

Yes, it is."Sex with another person", also known as "adultery", breaks the marriage bond. If you don't understand this, then there is not much hope that you will be faithful in future, so there is not much point in trying to reconcile. Your husband is wise to

My husband wants a divorce because I have a depression. What should I do?

Your #1 priority is YOU. Do not pay attention to him. Do not try to convince him, try to change him or even pray/hope to change him. All of these will only exacerbate your pain. He will come around when you

My husband wants a divorce. What should i do?

Being in a situation like this is bad. I am sorry you are going through this. Please allow me to show you my perspective here.Marriage is about love, respect and mutual acceptance of each other. In this case, there is no love from him for you and you gave up your

My husband wants a three some and I don't. How should I let him know?

The minute you let another person into your lives,,sexuality you are laying yourself open to infidelity. Be it with your husband, or with yourself, or that 3rd. Person.Because, there is absolutely no way of knowing if he and that 3rd. Person might go one step further and try to meet up, together, leaving you for dust. No where around.The

My husband wants kids, but I don't. What do I do?

Don't have them.I have a 10 year old son, and I love him more than my own life.but as a mother I can tell you that nobody should become a parent if they don't want to.In this case, I understand we are

My husband wants me to leave him. What should I do?

Very simple. Leave him. That selfish coward deserves that. If he wants you to leave him, it means he is a big coward who wants to shoot using your fingers on the gun. I meant he doesn't have the courage to do it himself and take the blame. Trust me he doesn't

My husband wants to get divorced and I am not convinced why?

I am so sorry that your husband wants a divorce and you are not sure of the reason. Divorce is a big step, no matter how often other people are doing it these days. You don't mention if you have children. Divorce is very hard on the children as well.

My husband wants to marry a second wife. I don't think I can cope with sharing him with someone else. What can I do?

She asked him to divorce her if he takes a second wifeMy wife and i have discused me having a second wife and she sayes that if i do then she would devorse me.we did not get married by the kafirs but we do have a islamic contract. and there was

My husband wants to move in his mother. Should I convince him to take her to a nursing home?

Depends.. Is she disabled with something that only a care facility can handle? If not, then what is your reasoning for not wanting her in your home? Would you want him to deny having your mother or father move in with

My husband wants us to have another baby, we have 3 small children. I do not want anymore. But he will not listen. What do I do?

Having another child has to be a joint decision: having children at all is probably the most important decision any couple will make.One child is a life-changing event: your daily lives will never be the same. Three small kids can be overwhelming, especially if the burden of care

My husband will not share his financials with me. What can I do?

You should not be online asking others how to hack your husband's mind. You are sharing your life with this person, you trust him enough to have kids with him. If you ask him about the finances, it should be information that's volunteered and not coerced.What happened when you

What does it mean if your husband leaves with a woman?

There is no place in the Quran where Muhammad tells Muslims to love people of other religions. By contrast there are at least three dozen verses that tell believers to fight against non-Muslims, and about 500 that speak of their place in Hell.

What should I do if my husband calls me names when he is angry at me?

My dad used to call my mom names and yell at her when I was little. He never hit her that I know of, but the verbal abuse was every bit as damaging. I hated him for that. I couldn't wait to get out of the house. When I was little I would stay at my friends house until

What should I do if my husband doesn't satisfy me anymore?

Doesn't satisfy you anymore?This implies that he did satisfy you previously and now he doesn't.That may be because he got lazy over time - perhaps you got lazy as well?So, the best way to resolve it is to discuss it openly and perhaps don't say

Why does my husband expect me to do everything around the house?

Does your husband expect you to do everything around the house? Or do you expect things to be done that he doesn't even think about?In my home, that question you pose is

Why does my husband refuse to make positive changes in the way he communicates?

There are very, very few ways to change another person's mannerisms.First, recognise that they have developed these mannerisms because they work for them. If you want something different, you have to ensure that those mannerisms work less well, and for the preferred mannerisms work better than the old. It takes persistence and patience, but it works very

Why does my husband show no physical affection towards me?

I can only speak for myself. I no longer show any affection toward my wife and would not have sex with her even if she offered (which would never happen anyway). Is she fat, or has she cut her hair short? No

My husband asked me to get his car for an oil change while he is on a trip. How can I avoid going to the oil change place, but get the oil changed?

Buy the appropriate oil and filter and have an assortment of wrenches handy, proper oil filter cup for your particular make, a drain pan and a creeper or a piece of cardboard to lay on.Jack up the vehicle and lower it onto the sturdy jack stands. make sure the car

My husband does not eat spaghetti and regular food. He always wants something special every day. It has become difficult for me to keep up with his demands. What should I do?

First, how long have you been married? If you're fairly newly-wed, is this a means of letting you know his favorite foods? If you've been married for a while, have you cooked or baked some thing(s) of which he wasn't fond? Is he perhaps trying to avoid a repeat of such meals?Is he asking for

I am Indian husband being physically abused by my wife, what should I do to get divorce from her and I also want the custody of my daughter?

Getting divorce for men in India is near to impossible thing unless you are Hritik Roshan and ready to pay 250 cr in alimony. Getting custody of a child that too girl child is also a very difficult thing , you can get visitation .So what can a man do in

I am tired of my husband's constant verbal abuse and his drinking. What should I do?

We always shows our anger/frustration on someone else!! not the person who is actually...So,U have to know the reason behind his anger/frustrationsHe might already shared with his close one'sFindout the reason...then u can figure out where the problem nd what's to be done for the

I don't feel any love for my husband. Despite my efforts to reciprocate his love, I just fail to maintain it. Should I quit or keep living with him?

Find out the reason why u dont love him any more. Are u bored with him or intrested in someone . But don't take hasty decisions, ruining ur life. Ive seen many people regretting their decision post divorce, leading an unhappy and regretful life. Just change ur mentality, love the posative

My brother do not like my husband. He always start debate whenever he see my husband. What should I do?

You need to have a serious discussion with your brother with your parents present if their alive, does anyone else in your family knows that he does this? He seems to have a personality clash or some kind of hidden agenda.....either or this needs to cease immediately or it's going to cause a serious rift

My cousin sister always compares my husband with her husband behavior. What should I do?

Let her talk.Unless she is saying hurtful and/or false things about your husband to make her husband look better. Then you should tell her that her comparisons are inappropriate and inaccurate, and she is to stop it. NOW.If she does

My divorce with my husband is inevitable. It would be another 16 years before the divorce will be carried out. What can I do until then to minimize negative impact to my young children who are now 2 and 4?

Kids turn out bad in a toxic marriage. It's better to be happily divorced than be unhappily married. And if you wait and live with the man for another 16 years, by which time your life will be gone, you

My husband does not fulfill his responsibilities as a husband and as a father. Do I have to be separated from my husband or do I have to remain in our marriage?

If his failures are profound as you describe them in a handful of stark words, then you must separate from him with a clear ultimatum. With children, the situation is particularly grave, with heavy obligations to try everything possible to save the marriage for the benefit of the

My husband has filed for divorce and is not ready to give his property details. How can I get them?

It would depend upon many factors. Where the case is filed, is it legal requirement for him to give these details etc.So unless you come out with complete details, no answer is possible,Regards,Shonee Kapoor498a Advisor Shonee Kapoor

My husband is becoming more and more needy. He travels for a living and wants to come home again after a two-month stay and being away for 2 weeks. All he ever does is lay around and not work I can't afford to support us. What do I do?

So this travelling for a living is not making a livingIt is true that you need to state what needs to happen.Someone not contributing is not being a good partner.When he returns expect contribution. Don't just pay for everything regardlessStop

My husband is constantly checking out women on the beach. Should I be worried?

Every man is checking out the women on the beach.  That's the reason or at least one of the reasons you go to the beach to begin with.  You gonna tell me with a straight face you aren't checking out the guys, too ?  Live a little.  Nothing to worry about.  The

My husband keeps account of my credit card bills he paid and asks me to pay back. I am unemployed. So how do you handle this situation?

Did you have any kind of agreement before getting married about how to handle finances and debt? If you did, and you agreed to share it, you should remind him of this. Even if not, his behavior is sounds kind of jerk-ish here. I suggest you have a serious talk about how you will handle finances in your

My husband of 9 years just told me hes questioning giving up our marriage and kids for a woman at his job what should I do?

ASK HIM HOW WOULD IT BE IF U LEFT HIM WITH HIS KIDS AND MOVE ON WITH SOMEONE....... WILL HE ACCEPT IT..... IF SOITS BETTER TO DIVORCE HIMPLZ PLAN KIDS AND UR FUTUREMAKE SURE UR FINANCIALLY SAFE AND SECURED .because this is time ull be emotionally

My husband stares at the wives of others. Is it crazy or anything else?

Madam , have pity on the poor fellow. We are human beings bound by social, moral and ethical norms. But there is such a thing as evolution . Men have evolved to plant their seeds in as many females possible to ensure more

My husband told me he didn't want to be with me when I am supposed to go to a convention. What should I think?

Communication between you and your husband is poor enough that you couldn't interpret what he said.  When he specifically said that he doesn't want to go with you, the message was fairly clear. Your marriage is very close to ending if it hasn't already. If you want to

My husband wants me to leave him. What should I do?

Very simple. Leave him. That selfish coward deserves that. If he wants you to leave him, it means he is a big coward who wants to shoot using your fingers on the gun. I meant he doesn't have the courage to do it himself and take the blame. Trust me he doesn't love

My husband wants to move in his mother. Should I convince him to take her to a nursing home?

Does she need special care? Who will provide it? Men love to dump their responsibilities on the female members of their families including wives, sisters, etc. So if she needs special care, discuss this beforehand so your husband knows he is responsible.I don't like couples to live with family members aside from their kids

My husband wouldn't listen to me when I told him I didn't want another child so I started secretly taking birth control. Now he's talking about IVF what should I do?

Warning: brutal honesty incoming.It was around 10 or so years ago when my wife and I began trying to have kids. We gave it the good ol try for a few years. We kind of knew we'd need some kind of help with the process. After