Let's begin with the basics: your employer may insist that you don't have your phone at work, or to have it fully turned off or not to use it. You do not have a right to have or use your
No, I was there for him listening to him with his divorce problems. However after he started to date he told me he expected the woman to pay her part all of the time. He is a doctor and he dates
When I was younger, I worked for a hard-charging male boss - a real Alpha - and he cracked the whip on all of us. I was one of twenty men working for him - no females in sight - which was typical of tech firms at that time.Something happened one day
Yes. And the funny thing is he is still a boss although so have since retired for unrelated medical reasons. Please understand that a boss who does not take his job seriously communicates a message to his employees that they don't need to be serious, either. At that point management of the group
I gave in my notice to my boss three weeks ago with the last date I was going to work was the 8th of September. Out of generosity for my boss and my replacement, I extended it to the 15th of September. My boss has stated that he's taking his family on holiday for two weeks after
Making a transition within your current company can be difficult. They hired you to do a specific job and may not be able to see you in another role. Here are my recommendations.Be clear about what the
When I was drop dead gorgeous 24 year old young woman, I took full advantage of my assets. I had voluptuous breasts with an ass to match. I ensured all of my work clothes were both professional and sexy. I wore bright red lipstick and long red nails. I knew I could get most men to do
If they are factually mistakes that you have made, then approach it as a learning process:"Hi boss, I know the way I handled it wasn't correct. I'm pretty clear on the process going forward. Is there anything else we can do to prevent this from happening?"The idea is
I don't know any better way to put it, so I'll be blunt.You're an intern. Shut up.Instead of complaining about what you're doing, you should be happy to be where you are. A lot of people want to be interns, and never make it. You whole point in being there, and starting to understand how the professional world works
are you productive at your job is your position important to your boss can your boss do without YOU??? and do you have a second plan? my advice is have a second job as a backup this way you have some type of SECURITY keep in mind that today boss's
If your boss has a sense of humor, make a couple of jokes about some people around the office.Say you've heard this funny one about yourself, then move onto your boss.If your boss laughs, move it up a step and just keep making your boss laugh.This will make your boss like you a little bit more
You need to keep a record of wha you do so you will have a portfolio to show, and accurate resume details. You will also be able to use this information to update your boss with weekly reports. This won't matter if your boss thinks anyone can do your job.Also , apart
You should start documenting everything the person does that makes you feel bad. The trick is that you don't talk about it in your documentation like you feel bad, you talk about it as a behavior. For example, it should look like this:3/3/15 - Assigned work,
How do I get the courage to confront my boss about his bad strategies?You have two issues here, actually:You perceive the boss's strategies as bad. You need to start re-thinking them as being either ineffective or of uncertain value. You also need to consider whether
No work is bad. Its always a new experience. If you don't want to do your boss's assigned work, go and candidly tel him/her. But be sure that you are losing a life time opportunity to do work that you hate. Also in future if you get similar obnoxious work, you can easily do that for you have
These are your options: 1. Address any issues directly; 2. Go to her boss; 3. Try to refocus on work; 4. Find another job.Try to have a conversation about any issues you have with her and see if that gets you anywhere. For the most
Your question begs an immediate question as an answer to your question. Why do you want to tell your boss that you don't want to work with him? What will you gain by telling your boss you don't want to work with
How to tell my boss that I don't want to be acknowledged for Administrative Assistant Day as I feel like I do a lot more than just Administrative tasks
Frankly, I can't imagine why you'd want to create a problem where none exists. Your boss wants to give you some sort of recognition and you want to tell them it isn't enough? Don't expect that to go well!What is your actual job title?
Firstly, how do you classify another fellow human being as
A boss is an employee in the firm just like you - and many a times the behaviour you find as weird are because of the pressure the higher management puts on him. This is a recursive process - your manager feels same as you
How to protect yourself if your boss prefers your colleague who underperforms and gives your work to your colleague so he can take the credit for it in front of others, and your boss blames his mistakes and your colleagues on you
I'm not sure there is much you can do to protect yourself in the situation you describe.Make sure, however, that your perception that your colleague underperforms is an accurate one. It sounds as if the boss thinks that it YOU who is underperforming. See if you can get some honest, unbiased feedback
How do you tell your boss politely that you don't want to work on weekends?It entirely depends on your job, industry, the circumstances under which you accepted your position, and the country and state in which you live. I can only comment on the US and don't know all state laws.If
How to write a Gentle Reminder letter – Must ReadThis is the letter, which I am writing to my boss, as a source of reminderThere are certain gentle and polite ways to start your
How should I allocate my hours, if my boss hasn't given me more work and I don't have anything else to do?
It sounds like you're doing some manual task requiring little thought or creativity. And it sounds like you would like more challenge from your job.Options in order from worst to best:coastAsk for more work to make yourself more valuable.Develop systems
I do not recommend setting a plan in motion that is about confrontation. You don't really want confrontation. You really want progress in your personal and professional development. I am certain that your organization does not support confrontation, but I'll wager that they do support constructive means by which to enhance the development of all of
Nilufar Baratova is right: it's not just about coping with a bad boss, you can be proactive. Here are some strategies that can help you to work proactively with a bullying boss:10 Minute Meeting: Ask to stop by his office for 10 minutes at the
In her great book The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, Eleanor Payson writes about how to be in relationship with a narcissist. It's a terrific book and I highly recommend it.The long and the short of it is - leave as soon as you can. Narcissists don't change, and actually don't care to
I asked my boss for a raise but he said I didn't deserve it, so I sent him my resignation letter. Now he is asking me to stay with a higher salary. Should I accept his offer?
I've been in this situation before with a Company I worked for, been with them for 4 years and at the same salary and have seen others get raises. This was a restaurant and that company did very well financially as they owed 16 of them, the problem was not they could not afford raises it
I don't like doing busy-work and I don't mind being fired over it. How should I tell my boss to give work that has value?
First, I've literally never encountered someone who described themselves as a genius and thought anything positive about them. This, despite working with and being friends with a large number of literal geniuses (the perks of having a spouse at NIH). The very fact that you'd describe
I just started a new job a week ago, but my boss is extremely rude and degrading to all of the staff including myself. I don't want to quit after such a short amount of time, but he makes the job almost unbearable, what should I do?
If he or she is the owner, or the highest authority in the place, resign and get another job. If he is not the highest authority, Go to the authority and tell them that you want to complain. Have a written complaint but hold it to see how strongly the authority supports
Let's look at this 2 ways - the reality of the situation, and the smart way of handling it. These are not the same. Reality is, your boss might not be acting professionally, and seems to be acting more out of her frustration than an intention
I told my boss that I'm going to resign, and he offered me twice my current salary if I stay, what should I do?
TLDR: I was offered a job by a customer of my company, and then counter offered nearly 3X my existing pay to remain with my company. I took the customer's offer, and never regretted it.I worked for one of the largest computer hardware, software, and services companies in the US as
I usually leave work at 6 pm. I work hard but my boss doesn't like that 'my commitment lasts for work hours only'. Should I quit?
As an employer, I find the described view of the boss appalling.When I hire someone, I expect their best work and, in return, I've provided the best salary I feel is appropriate along with a good working environment, benefits, and
I want to resign because I have a better job offer (around 1.5x). What should I do if my boss offers me a better salary? Should I stay in that case?
I work as a HR Recruiter for a large global organization and have seen this exact same scenario time and time again and it really depends upon why you would entertain a new position.During my initial interview I always ask candidates
I was offered a great salary from a competitor company and I already have been rejected by my own boss to get a salary raise. Should I resign?
I don't think I understand the question. Your boss rejected your request for a raise and another company offered you what you consider a
Yes..Of course, it's difficult to communicate with people whom are in places in you life that are in authority, and especially when they hold the purse springs. Furthermore, unless you let it known your boss may assume your not interested, their busy! And this way
My boss is playing games. Im currently looking for new work but need advice in the meantime. What do you do when your boss keeps lying to you and cutting your hours?
Tell your boss (truthfully)
Someone once gave me this advice and it has worked and it counter intuitive (at least to me). You will advance further by telling people and thanking them publicly for their help to you than you will publicizing your own achievements. It is very strange but people remember the former and take it more seriously much more than the
One or more of the following may be the reason:The boss is introverted and does not like socializing. When she/he is talking to her/his subordinate, the purpose is to discuss official work, give instructions and be done.The boss believes in a boss-subordinate hierarchy: The subordinate has to be fully
Dear FriendIt requires courage to admit your mistake, you are courageous enough but courage also means you don't let fear stop you from confronting ur boss.Just give him/her sometime, the way u admitted ur mistake, maybe he/she also realizes and shows some courage. If it doesn't happen, go and talk to him/her, share what how u
Always call ahead and be honest with your boss. Showing up late is far worse than having to explain why you are going to be late.When you explain to your boss, try saying, "I'm going to be late just this week, because I signed
What does it mean when your boss allocates all your work to your colleagues and you are left with no work? Please be informed that I have been awarded many times for doing excellent work. Does it mean that your boss wants to get rid off you?
I'll give you the benefit of doubt and assume you are a good employee. It could be that he (or she) is shifting work to others to challenge them to get them to the same level you are at currently. There may be some objectives the others need to meet in their performance management plan
The term ‘bad boss' is subjective in itself -one person might find a boss who does not communicate with them to be a bad boss while another person might feel ‘no news is good news. Still, I think that most people would agree that certain traits are common to the definition of a bad boss
I actually thought this was a trick question at first... I mean, it kind of answers itself! But, assuming you are serious in your inquiry- are you doing your job? Do you need someone to tell you what to do all the time? It can
Why doesn't my narcissistic boss like me?Thank you for the question. I don't know enough about your specific situation to give you a definitive answer, but I can share my experience with a narcissistic boss and offer some insight, which may be relevant
You & a friend are up for a promotion at work. You are equally trained and experienced. After the interviews are done you find they bad mouthed you to the boss. Do you do anything about the negativity? If so what is the best course of action?
This happened months ago. Did you get the promotion or did he? If he got it by bad mouthing you he owes you. If you got it anyways you win! Get over it.Let's assume you lost. He owes you. You owe it to yourself to get revenge. You need to
How to deal with a boss that gets caught up with minutia instead of looking at the big picture of what we need to accomplish
What is ‘the big picture' exactly?Most of the time it is nothing but time wasting bullshit.There are exactly two things a business has to do to continue to exist. 1. Generate cash. 2. Make a profit.Take your eye of either of these and all of a sudden the
I do not recommend setting a plan in motion that is about confrontation. You don't really want confrontation. You really want progress in your personal and professional development. I am certain that your organization does not support confrontation, but I'll wager that they do support constructive means by which to enhance the development of all of their staff
I have a relatively new coworker, (she's worked in our dept for about 6 mos. now) who relies entirely too much on me to do work that she should be picking up by now. What's the best way to set boundaries without my boss thinking I'm sabotaging her?
Did she get any formal training? If not, talk to the boss and suggest a formal training period would be a good idea. If you are good at it, outline one so you can give it to him when you meet.If she did get
My boss offered me a 'take it or resign' offer with 20% less salary than what I'm getting right now. What should I do?
I have actually been in this position. I was furious. No reduction in responsibilities. He didn't even offer take less or resign really. He just said,
My boss offered me extra hours, but told me to report my normal hours to HR and record how much I worked extra to use later for time off. Is this legal?
Q: My boss offered me extra hours, but told me to report my normal hours to HR and record how much I worked extra to use later for time off. Is this legal?The long term care facility I worked at played this game all the time. Nurses were expected to punch
My boss told me to, 'go pound sand' after I disagreed with something he said in a meeting. What did he mean? Should I be looking for a new job?
It's a fairly common industry term that is similar to saying
Yes.When you fear for your safety or your self esteem, your productivity reflects your fears. The feeling among the workers is either always feeling sorry for each other; looking for a chance to throw someone under the bus to curry favor with the boss
I have led groups as large as 600 people and promoted numerous people to supervisor and manager. I always demand that people be open and honest. I would tell my new leaders that each of us are different, and their style should be what they are comfortable with,
Hi!When your name cross their minds at once when they are finding solutions or in some problem or troubles.When people count on you.When they respect you and your decisions.When they like to be with you.When people like to join you as team members or in discussions and decisions.When they can openly
My advice : don't quit until you have a real opportunity elsewhere, or until you found where these opportunities can be.As some (maybe abruptly) mentioned in the other answers, a lot of people don't like their job, unfortunately. To me, the main life goal is to grow up, and to give yourself the opportunity to
My mom works for a woman I don't trust. During travel, they shared a hotel room. In the morning, my mom found her wallet stolen. Her boss said someone broke-in but, after security came, she found it on the floor. Should I tell her to quit this job?
I'm looking this that follows. Your mom works for the lady she with. She is your mothers boss. If her boss is the one paying her, owner or representative, so boss is probably paying the hotel rate. I'm thinking this could be her supervisor and that would be another story was a
My only work experience is at a job that closed down and I have no references because the bosses all changed their numbers. Will this effect me getting a job in the future?
It may limit your choices. My job history involves more than a few places that no longer exist and bosses who flew away into retirement and are unreachable. If they ask do provide reasons why they can't speak on your behalf (closed company, retirement, move unknown, death). BUT try putting your work
Don't quit this job until you get another one, but make it a priority to find another job as soon as possible. There are many bosses out there and not everyone is like that. But be prepared to answer important questions when you are called for an interview. They will see your resume and they will ask you
Interesting question. I have been there. I came very close to quitting my job two years ago because I felt like my boss didn't like me and couldn't relate to me. I am so glad I didn't. I got some very good advice from
Should you still give a two week notice and work the two weeks when quitting a job if you think that your current boss doesn't like you and might give you a bad reference to a new, potential employer?
Suppose you're wrong about what you think.That is, had you worked for the two weeks, your boss wouldn't have given you a bad reference. That is, your boss wouldn't have given you a bad reference...until you up and quit with no notice.Why give your boss an additional reason to dislike you?At my last job, I gave 7
Some of the people at my work talk all day but I love to focus and get things done. My boss has mentioned he wants to give me my own team. But now I'm getting the feeling other team mates don't like me. What can I do?
One of the hardest things in life is accepting victory, that you won, that you succeeded. This seems odd one would think accepting defeat much more difficult but accepting victory may be just as difficult or under some circumstances more difficult. This is because
A girl I worked with fell for our boss and manipulated him to fire my team and I.At the age of 19, I landed my first job.Except my first job, was unlike most people's first job. My job was at the national dialogue conference, i worked under UNOPS.The National Dialogue Conference (NDC) was a transitional dialogue process held at
I have had a few good bosses but they are rare and sadly, it seems the bosses that are liked by their subordinates are usually disliked by their bosses and thus, do not last long as bosses. It seems the only way to be a good boss in the eyes of your boss
All of the previous answers have merit, with Isabelle's response a real-life good one. However, let's alter the question to hating and fearing your boss, who is a nightmare, along with not liking your job.Why would people stay in a situation where you are cursed, disrespected publicly and made to feel incompetent when you are
Who was the worst boss that you have ever had, and what did they do that made you realize that it was time to change jobs?
Far too many to mention !!!!!My first job was working for Allders International Duty Free Shops at Heathrow a Division of the old UDS Retail Group in the UK.Mr Bully from Huddersfield was about 6 feet 6 inches tall and was just a horrible nasty piece of work - he would do things to drop you in