Are gay men attracted to feminine men?

Most are not.The thing is that most of the guys that dislike feminine qualities in men are not really very masculine themselves and some portray a role of masculinity that is not natural for them only to meet masculine men because that is what they like.In my experience most gay guys are waiting for the

Are most gay men feminine?

Yes this is a generalization I know there are allot of gay men who aren't camp and of course the opposite you get a few camp men who are straight but there is no denying that a high proportion of gay men are camp to varying degrees. I

Can gay men be attracted to heterosexual men? Or do they prefer other gay men?

Oh, I definitely have a gaydar.I had a crush on a guy at my first job. From the first moment I saw him, I fell hard. He was so attractive in every possible way. And I swore that he was flirting

Can straight men be friends with gay men?

Not only friends, but INTIMATE friends.Among my closest friends were those who

Can straight men like gay men?

Let's untangle this one shall we? There is certainly more than one way a human can ‘like' the company of another. The ancient Greeks carved up these forms of affection into six types:Eros: sexual affection; lust, desirePhilia: the kind of affection one

Do some women and men choose to be lesbian or gay? If so, why?

TL;DR: No, they are born this way!Scientific    evidence has shown that some of the hypothalamic  nuclei are  different   in homosexual versus heterosexual individuals. A  study  comparing the   size of the Interstitial Nucleus of the Anterior Hypothalamus 3 (INAH-3) in homosexual and heterosexual men found  significant  differences: in homosexual men the

Gay men, what do you generally think of lesbian women?

I thought of a lot of "snark" for this question (I abjure sweeping generalities and "what do you think of X" questions).  So I navigated away and a thought occurred that I'll share.  I know you're may not know it, but on Quora, we get a lot of baiting and

How to find out if someone is gay

This answer is from a real life experience and is in Indian context. There was a guy who used to work at my workplace and he was gay but since he did not have any stereotypical gay mannerisms and characteristics as portrayed in ignorant

How do guys become gay?

I became bisexual (not gay) due to my own curiosity and persistance lolHere's my dirty story..I remember one day I just decided to experiment with my body back when I was like 15. I thought

How do lesbian women and gay men think about each other?

You are asking for a pretty big generalization, so you are not likely to get a very precise answer.I would say, however, that in the early years of Gay Liberation (70s and 80s), there was a strong political alliance, and during the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic especially, lesbians proved to be strong allies and

How, if at all, is the accent, pitch and voice of gay men different than that of straight men and how accurate is voice in determining sexual orientation?

UPDATE: I found this interesting"Peter Renn's undergraduate study (which won a George H. Mitchell Undergraduate Award) demonstrated that gay-stereotyped speech more strongly correlates with childhood gender-nonconformity than with sexual orientation and proposed that gay-stereotyped speech is actually childhood-gender-nonconformity speech that has become associated with

What do you think about straight-acting gay men?

Depressing, irritating, unfortunate.‘Straight acts' are definitive proof that we need to change our views on homosexuality and masculinity fast.I've already written about this subculture (if we can even call it that) before on Quora, so I'll try to keep this answer synthetic and short, but brutal with a little bit of uuuuh.Straight acts are

What were some small signs that made you realize you were gay/lesbian?

I'm a lesbian. There were some signs that pointed right at the word LESBIAN, but I just did not want to admit that. I finally accepted my orientation in my 20, and now I'm pretty confortable with my identity. Here are a few telling

Why do some say that lesbian women think like men and gay men think like women?

This question is so heteronormative it makes me cringe.Lesbian women ARE women, and gay men ARE men. The question assumes they are not.It would be properly phrased

Why do straight women like gay men?

Can't say exactly why but I like gay men. I am a straight girl who likes gay guys more than straight guys. It is because of their unique sexuality. Nothing can be more beautiful than a man falling in love with another man. Guys making out is a real turn ON for me. People usually

Are lesbians attracted to gay men?

Well that kind of defeats the purpose of being a lesbian.Being lesbian means you (as a women) are solely attracted to other women (I'm keeping it on the sexual spectrum, the romantic spectrum is a whole other story).Think of it this way, you did say

Can animals be gay/lesbian?

First, you need to unmderstand the difference between homosexual behavior and homosexual orientation.Homosexual behavior can be observed by an independent viewer and confirmed without any communication with the observed animal. It's very easy to establish whether animals other than humans exhibit homosexual behavior. In fact, they do. It's been

Do lesbians have it harder than gay men?

They have it different, so it's hard to compare.Homophobic people most often feel disgusted and repulsed by gay men. They associate them with anal sex, which is oddly thought to be unmanly and dirty. I don't think I need to go in depth to explain how gay

How common is pederasty among gay men?

Pederasty is extremely uncommon in the gay male cultures of the United States and Europe. I'm assuming by that you are talking about relationships between adult men and teenage boys.You may occasionally see a man in his early twenties dating a guy in

Why can't gay men donate blood but lesbians can?

HIV And The Blood Supply: An Analysis Of Crisis Decisionmaking. (History of the Controversy)From the text:

Are gay men feminine because they feel like women?

No - most gay men don't feel like women (if they did this would be related to their gender identity rather than their sexuality - a trans person, or a non-binary person for example).The idea of what

Are gay men grossed out by women?

IMHO, I think you need to define which generation you are asking. Those of us who are older gay men, we had to force ourselves to look and act straight, which meant liking women and having sex with women. Many may have deeply fallen in love with a

Are gay men jealous of women (cis or trans) because they get all the straight guys?

I wouldn't say it's so much jealousy, I will say this. If you were to put 10000 guys in a stadium, only 200 of those guys would be openly gay. I'll update the number to 500 to factor in guys

Are gay men less inclined to mansplaining than straight men?

This 'manslpaining' term is ridiculous.Leave it to feminists to come up with a term so idiotic.Do feminists not understand that we don't just explain things to women, we do it to other men as well.It's called COMMUNICATION. We explain what we mean

Are gay men more feminine than straight men?

Some are. Statistically speaking, it's hard to know what you don't know. We're sensory biased. When you don't know a thing -gay men- and your only cue in identifying random men in the environment is those who act effeminate, you will tend to

Are gay men not attracted to women at all?

I do not think they are.As a counselor, I have worked closely with maybe 5–6 gay men, and I was able to talk to them quite a bit about their sexual orientation. Most of them stated that they had some attraction to women, anywhere from 5–25 on a scale of 50 where 50 is

Are masculine gay men more likely to be accepted than feminine gay men?

In my opinion, the general answer is yes, unfortunately. Our society tends to view masculine gay men as being more "manly" (than feminine gay men). In other words, masculine men are closer to the socially constructed idea/model of what a man is supposed to be, while feminine gay men are

Are most gay men feminine?

Yes this is a generalization I know there are allot of gay men who aren't camp and of course the opposite you get a few camp men who are straight but there is no denying that a high proportion of gay men are camp

Are there gay men that have very deep voices and wouldn't be suspected to be gay?

The thing is-in the eyes of the general public typical gay guy is

Are women more likely to be bi/gay than men?

There are a number of late in life lesbians, probably more than guys but it's not so much turning gay. The whole brain chemistry is actually different, men who are gay have a completely different brain chemistry to straight men. Straight women

As a gay guy, what turns you on in a man?

This is a difficult one for me, as I am bisexual but enjoy sex with men more (at this point in my life). I can look at a guy and think he is good looking, and look longer at really attractive, well kept men. But I never think to myself

As a straight man do you have any close friends who are gay men?

I call your very own Quoran Dan Holliday a good friend.It's a silly thing, being gay in so much of the world is quite taboo. A lot of people start to think of gay people as this

As an observation, straight guys prefer hanging out with discreet gay guys than open gay guys. Why is that?

I can only speak for myself. I'm straight, and while I was quite homophobic in my youth, it was result of indoctrination from my Baptist upbringing. I moved past that indoctrination as well as my Baptist upbringing.Since that time, I have been quite secure in my own heterosexuality and

Can a gay man and a lesbian be attracted to each other?

No, unless they are both pre-op transsexuals who don't know each other's gender. Basically, two strangers meet; she has a male body, he has a female body, they don't know it, she thinks he is a hot woman, he thinks she is a hot

Can a gay man and a lesbian women marry and love each other?

I believe that happened before. For sure it is not the typical. Part of it is how gay is the gay guy and how lesbian is the lesbian woman?Andrea Dworkin and John Stoltenberg were together for over 30 years and eventually did

Can gay men be attracted to heterosexual men? Or do they prefer other gay men?

Oh, I definitely have a gaydar.I had a crush on a guy at my first job. From the first moment I saw him, I fell hard. He was so attractive in every possible way. And I swore that he was flirting with me every time we talked.

Can gay men make gay jokes with their straight friends?

Ohh, please! I feel like nowadays every fart one takes could constitute an offence in somebody's fragile world picture.Gay men, and straight men, and women of all kind alike, can, may and should make any jokes they wish. Of course,

Can gay men still be attracted to women in some sort of way?

There are some perfectly honest answers below from both men and women, straight, bi and gay. I commend all of them for their commitment to empiricism.On the other hand, some of the gay men posting below are simply lying.Endless studies in the lab have shown that

Can straight men be attracted to gay men?

In many ways, gay men and straight men are a perfect pairing. For the most part, relationships between gay men and straight men are healthy and positive, with one exception I'll get to later. In the vast majority of cases, relationships between gay men and straight men are platonic. Sure, an occasional

Can straight men like gay men?

Let's untangle this one shall we? There is certainly more than one way a human can ‘like' the company of another. The ancient Greeks carved up these forms of affection into six types:Eros: sexual affection; lust, desirePhilia: the kind of affection one has for a long-time friend, say from when you

Can straight women fall in love with gay men?

Yes, they can, they often do - it can result in either a very intense passionate friendship or frustration that it never becomes romantic/sexual.Think about how you became friends with your platonic best friends - that was also a form of falling in love. It's even possible for a gay man to fall

Can two gay men be just friends?

I'm thinking of my wacky friend, Howie.We used to go clubbing together in Manhattan. He ventured up into Spanish Harlem with me once to an HIV test that made me really nervous.I'm thinking of my timid but fierce friend Brad,

Can women trust straight men with gay besties?

That doesn't really make sense.People want to get it on because of their own sexual orientation and who it makes them attracted to, not because of the other person's orientation.As a straight male, I can find a woman attractive whether I know she's lesbian or

Do gay men ever get jealous of straight women because straight men don't like them? Or do lesbians ever get jealous of attractive straight men?

I for one certainly have fallen for straight guys, and have been envious of the women who were with some of them.I'm not sure where all this attitude about a gay guy falling for a straight guy comes from. If one or another gay guy feels that he couldn't fall for a guy who would never

Do Indian people accept gay men in their society?

Well it depends on how aware they are.I am gay and I came out to my parents 2 months back (when I turned 18) and they accepted it! Though there was some emotional drama- me and my mom cried together for the whole night!

Do lesbian women view men, in the same way that gay men, view women?

Sorry, but this question is bullshit. Well, I think what you're trying to understand with the question is legitimate, but the premise behind the question is flawed.There isn't one universal way lesbians think about men, nor is there one universal way gay men think about women. Don't be ridiculous.There varying dispositions about men among women in general just

Do some women and men choose to be lesbian or gay? If so, why?

A friend posted a comment to an answer that got me thinking about this.I've always found the claim that "no one chooses to be gay" or "why would I choose this lifestyle?" to be extremely disingenous.Sexual orientation, and the expression of sexual desire, is

Do women feel safer around gay men compared to being around straight men?

I will give a fairly mixed response.Quite honestly, it depends on the men. Not their sexuality. The thing that makes me feel most comfortable around men is whether they respect people's consent in every day life. Things like asking permission before touching someone (this could be

Do you think that lesbians are more accepted than gay men?

Do you think that lesbians are more accepted than gay men (gays)?Seems like it's the case on Quora because there's a topic about lesbians but not about gays.......WOW it's almost as though this exact question has already been discussed at length on Quora by a whole bunch

Gay men and women, how stereotypically feminine/masculine are you?

Is there an online test I could take that gives me a number? I do so enjoy pseudo-scientific online tests.I contain multitudes:I am attracted to guys. Never to gals. Ever.I like it if they have hair all over their body. I have hair too.I like muscles, but not

Gay men, what do you generally think of lesbian women?

I thought of a lot of "snark" for this question (I abjure sweeping generalities and "what do you think of X" questions).  So I navigated away and a thought occurred that I'll share.  I know you're may not know it, but on Quora, we get a lot of

Genetically, why do gay people exist?

I think the problem is that you only understand evolutionary biology in terms of competition, without an appreciation for cooperation.When you have a lot of same gender siblings, it doesn't make sense to compete with them for mates. Competition between siblings harms the success of your genes being passed down. Interestingly, one predictor that has been found for a

How to find out if someone is gay

I can always tell if a guy would go with a man, I am straight but go with guys (greedy). I know that makes no sense but I have reasons for it. so it is easier to just call myself Bi sexual, I dont fancy men however.Now, I am also a

How come some gay men naturally sound like women, without the use of hormones? Even their mannerisms are the same as women, do they try to act that way or is it natural?

Gender is a spectrum. Testosterone levels varyAlso mannerisms etc are partially socialised.Humans are not production line produced robots.I know straight men who sound like women.We need to stop trying to categorise people or expecting them to fit stereotypes.And yes some gay men are trying to fit their idea of the stereotype.

How do closeted gay men in heterosexual marriages have children? Surely, wouldn't the man be unaroused and therefore unable to become erect and inseminate the woman?

I was the wife of a closeted gay man and had two children with him.I was sexually aggressive.Most men will become aroused if you know how to touch them.If I didn't initiate, there was no sex.Often, when I initiated, he did not want sex. I used to go to

How do guys become gay?

Ok, if you really want itI hereby confess my crimes:When I was 10–13 I really didn't know what sexuality was. It was all about aesthetics and efficiency,I had an aesthetical admiration for male body because of its speed and strength, I despised

How to recognize someone who is gay or lesbian

What you are asking for is how to develop your Gaydar.Most people develop this skill instinctively and reasonably accurately, so it is a little hard to teach it.While  the idea of Gaydar might be contentious, research has shown that it  does exist. Viewing faces for

How do lesbian women and gay men think about each other?

You are asking for a pretty big generalization, so you are not likely to get a very precise answer.I would say, however, that in the early years of Gay Liberation (70s and 80s), there was a strong political alliance, and during the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic especially, lesbians proved to be strong

How to cruise for gay men

I'm straight, so I should probably butt out... but I have to chime in here with my story.When I was younger I worked in San Francisco for many years as a copier repairman for Xerox. I was wondering why some guys were "mean mugging" me for no reason, especially

How does it feel, as a straight guy, to be approached by a gay guy?

It has happened 5 times.The most interesting incident was while in the military. At the time I was stationed at what was then NAS Moffett Field, down the street from Stanford and across the street from NASA Ames.They had a great lap pool and gym there and I would spend a good chunk of time in the gym.

How, if at all, is the accent, pitch and voice of gay men different than that of straight men and how accurate is voice in determining sexual orientation?

There is no reliable way to tell if someone is gay by their voice. Given that 1–3% of men are gay, have you had the impression that 1–3 men out of 100 you come across every day have

How obvious is it to gay men whether another man is gay or straight?

Confession: I'm not a gay man...nor a bisexual one...but I have pretty good gaydar.I developed it FAST when I worked at an adult bookstore back in 2000. It was pretty important to be able to detect it if you wanted to make a good sale, because closeted gay men, looking for their first purchase, will frequently

I like gay and straight sex, where can I find gay men to hook up with?

Gay men are pretty easy to find.  What it seems like you're looking for are gay men who like straight sex.  They typically go by the name, "bisexual" or "omnisexual".  They exist too.  The "where" is really, really, super-duper hard to tell you.  A lot depends on where you live, what

If a heterosexual man is attractive to gay men but not attractive to women, what does that tell about the man, the women and the gay men?

I don't think there is a general answer to this, but one thing that many men find attractive and women often don't is having lots of big muscles. Straight men tend to be obsessed with this and mistakenly think it will make them more attractive to women, whereas the

Is it OK to be gay? If being gay and straight were both normal would you be gay if you had the choice?

This is an odd question because it isn't a choice. You can't switch gayness on and off like that.First off - it's OK to be gay.Second - right now,

Is it possible for a gay man to turn straight?

Original question: Can a gay turn straight if he wants to?No. A gay person is born that way - in all my years, I've only met one person who said he chose to be gay, but he was a sociopath I worked with years ago

Is it possible for a heterosexual man to like how gay men act?

Well, firstly, not all gay men are the ‘snap-snap-head swivel-girlfriend' kind of

Should gay people be allowed to be married, and who is your favorite gay couple?

Who do you think is in the position to decide what rights other people should or should not have?What justifies this position?The right to love whomever, be loved by whomever and to live with whomever one desires is indelible right regardless of sex, age, physique, skin colour, language, creed, class, education . .

What are advantages that gay men have over straight men?

Q: What are advantages that gay men have over straight men?The following are true for Western countries where gay men have equal rights; in no particular order:Greater presumption of being equal in relationships; none of that nonsense about

What if a gay and a lesbian get married?

I have a strong suspicion that the numbers of gay men and lesbians ho got married are so large that it would strain the abilities of a mathematician to count. Gay men and lesbians have married (sometimes to one another) since

What percentage of gay men marry?

Since there's no way to actually and accurately know what percentage of men in the general population are gay, there's likewise no way to know what percentage of those gay men choose to marry their gay partner.Sure, you might be able to cobble together a somewhat

What's something gay men do that straight men never have to think about?

A few years ago, I was at an outdoor table at Campus Martius Park in Detroit.The night was dark. The fountain was babbling in the background. We were drinking cold, crisp white wine, partly to combat the damp heat and partly just because

Where is the easiest country to apply for immigration as a gay couple?

One of you could could come to the UK as a student for a postgraduate course of at least 12 months. As long as you have been living together for 2 years and can prove it, the other one can come as a dependant partner.The student would have a small buffer at the end

Why are some gay men feminine and some not?

Some humans, of either sex, are more gender-conforming in their behaviour than others. No one knows why. These characteristics are often apparent in very young children. It's possible that there are biological factors involved, perhaps stemming from the influence of gestational hormones on brain development. As I see it, brains develop

Why, as a heterosexual man, do I find lesbians more socially acceptable than gay men?

Since nobody has a window into the individual psychology of anybody, nobody can give you an accurate answer.  Life is complicated and this question begs a simple answer.  Stop looking for simple answers.  People looking for simple answers to complex realities

Why do people think that someone can become gay?

There are probably a lot of reasons, but the biggest is probably because gay people don't start out as gay in the eyes of others. We're assumed straight. It's assumed we will grow up to marry a person of the opposite gender.All they way up until we come out people think we're straight. So when we do come out,

Why do some people still think gay people make a choice to be gay rather than being born homosexual?

Religion, instilled fear, hyper-masculinity, hyper-femininity and willful ignorance.The concept you stated provides many fundamentalists In almost EVERY religion cover for their very hateful stance on homosexuality.By their logic if homosexuality is an abomination, a sin and you choose that sexual behavior you are CHOOSING to

Why do some say that lesbian women think like men and gay men think like women?

This question is so heteronormative it makes me cringe.Lesbian women ARE women, and gay men ARE men. The question assumes they are not.It would be properly phrased

Why do straight women like gay men?

Can't say exactly why but I like gay men. I am a straight girl who likes gay guys more than straight guys. It is because of their unique sexuality. Nothing can be more beautiful than a man falling in love with another man. Guys making out is a real turn ON for me. People usually hate gay people

Why don't gay men catcall other men like straight men do to women?

Straight men know women will act ashamed or otherwise fail to object (because they fear potential violence from male catcallers if they respond).Gay men know straight men - if the man they catcall happens to be straight - are very likely to respond to the catcall with immediate

Why don't straight men + lesbians have what straight women + gay men have?

Misogyny. It all boils down to misogyny, but if you want specifics:Straight men don't like expending emotional energy on women that won't give those men sexual gratification as a consolation prize (see Nice Guy Syndrome on Urban Dictionary for details).Lesbians don't want to appeal to straight men at all, but

Why is society harder on gay men than lesbians?

I believe the answer is all about sex. Anal sex is at the crux of it. The religions started it. Many have a strong belief in the importance of every sperm's potential to make a human being . This led to the belief in the importance of the sperm not being

Why would 2 gay men or 2 lesbians want to get married when it would seem from a legal perspective it would be better to just live together as a couple?

This often comes up in workshops where men are trepidatious about marriage because they aren't aware of all of the benefits they're missing out on (though there are other legal ways to create a lot of them without the codicil of marriage, but I digress) so I generally post this up on the overhead screen:NOLO excitedly